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Actor Elliot Page (formerly Ellen Page) comes out as Transgender

I just wanted to add that I agree with Dennis and Tyler that Brokenlink is a bad person.
 
That is an obtuse interpretation penorface. :laughing

I like Mike, just some things posted are not liked.
Using him as an example was probably a bad move.

So guilty of being whatever I am.
 
TylerW said:
Around the sink, Nebulous tends to post some very trollish posts, especially on topics that don't agree with them. Brokenlink's comment wasn't especially neighborly, but hard to say it wasn't earned, either.

Its true that you can't make someone care about something they don't, but I try to keep an open mind and when someone talks about why something is important to them, I liek to listen.
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This is pretty accurate. Nebulous tends to pull the same argument out quite frequently, demeaning the post or poster, and not engaging in dialogue. In fact, shutting it down. Was my response diplomatic? No. Could it have been nicer? Sure. Was it in kind? Absolutely.


byke said:
I just wanted to add that I agree with Dennis and Tyler that Brokenlink is a bad person.
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I agree with this.
 
And not to be a dick Bud, but at this point I guess that's what I am; but why did you single me out? Out of this entire thread, you picked my comment to use as an example. I can't help but notice this is not the first, second, or third time you have singled my post out and ignored the original post. In this case, the original post was pretty benign. But it certainly isn't the first time you have called me out specifically for responding to someone's shitpost and completely ignored the shitpost.

It's kind of funny actually. Most times you do it, I walk away for a while telling myself I am not going to post here again. But then I do, and boom, there you are. If you'd prefer I stay away, just say the word.
 
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What are you supposed to do with people who don't care and let everyone know? Coddle them?

Nebulous had it coming. BL's response was entirely appropriate.
 
scootergmc said:
And conversely, what are you supposed to do with people who claim to care and let everyone know? Coddle them?
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But as pointed out above, there are tons of news stories about all types of things. Some you care about, some you don't. Standard practice is for people to discuss and comment on the issues they care about and ignore the ones they don't. To purposely declare that you don't care is kind of pointless, other than to make a point that you don't care. But if you don't care, why post?

On the flipside, the folks that care about a given issue are usually the ones that discuss the issue. Let me use an example. Your child comes home from school all excited because they met Batman and he had the exact same toy gun they do and it's the best thing ever. You being the father who bought the gun and got him into Batman care and therefore engage in discussion about how cool it is. Meanwhile, your wife from the other room yells over the tv "And I'm supposed to care why?" What does this add to the discussion other than make you want to walk in the other room, turn off the tv, and start a screaming match? It's a pointless distraction and quite frankly, rude.
 
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scootergmc said:
And conversely, what are you supposed to do with people who claim to care and let everyone know? Coddle them?
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If that's your attitude maybe you shouldn't be on message boards :laughing

Is that what you do when your friends and family tell you stuff they care about?
Ask yourself if they should be coddled?
 
scootergmc said:
I see, it can only go one way on message boards :laughing


Agree or be gone!:afm199
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So care and agree are now synonyms? Okkkkkkkkkk. Disagreeing with something and announcing so is a completely different thing than not caring about an issue.

Let me give you another example.

Your kid comes in and says "Hey, this older guy wants me to spend the night at his house. He has all of these cool toys and this whole room full of tvs and video games. He says we can sleep in the same bed too."

You can answer with "I disagree with that idea" or "And I'm supposed to care why?"

You still think they mean the same thing?
 
I think in this case, the point about agreement revolves around whether one should care or not. There seems to be some disagreement about that.
 
scootergmc said:
I see, it can only go one way on message boards :laughing


Agree or be gone!:afm199
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But it's not "Agree or begone" - it should be "engage meaningfully in the discussion or find another discussion to meaningfully engage in"

Coming into a thread to performatively shout about how you don't care about a thing is not contributing meaningfully to the discussion. It's just waving your arms around trying to distract from the conversation and focus the attention o them. It's stupid, and it's selfish. If you want I can pop into the NFL thread to tell everyone that I don't care about the NFL, and you'll see the same thing.

now, there's some folks who are petitioning that Elliot Page's character on Umbrella Academy should be recast because the character is female and Page is now presenting as male.

I don't agree with that stance, but I think it's a valid discussion worth happening - and one example of any number of discussions around this topic that are totally valid and support a number of different opinions.
 
tzrider said:
I think in this case, the point about agreement revolves around whether one should care or not. There seems to be some disagreement about that.
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I don't care that people don't care about this topic. It's a pointless non-contribution to this topic and it's selfish to make a post solely stating that opinion.
 
TylerW said:
Coming into a thread to performatively shout about how you don't care about a thing is not contributing meaningfully to the discussion.
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It may not be as verbose as some people like to be, but it's absolutely meaningful.
 
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