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What Are You Thinking Of Right Now?

I'm thinking I'm taking this personal...

Worked with a promoter and venue for their new show series. Did their first 4 shows for free... Help them get started, free tickets, free experience, free music and friend of my wife. Didn't make the next two and they never reached out about me coming back after that.

They just did their end of year wrap up post thanking all their vendors and stuff... Using my photos from their first event...


And did not thank me or tag me in their post.


They tagged other photographers....


Totally taking it personal
 
I'm thinking that one of the biggest problems in life is not being able to see the "hold" line until after you've crossed it
 
I'm thinking that today must be judgey Sunday, holy shit.

Don't bring up opinions today, people are out for blood.
 
I am thinking I hope I never take for granted living here in the center of the universe where the weather is lovely and the roads are awesome. We just got back from a meeting at the South Bay Yacht Club. It was lovely. I think I need to go to the sailing nerd out thread…
 
Flannel sheets
It's a polarizing subject I know. I can't even make up my mind or rather my perimenopausal body can't make up it's mind. :p

I share my bed with two 15lb feline furballs who put up with my middle of the night hot flash shenanigans with barely a shift of a paw as I attempt to throw all the bedding off mid-solar flare. But then I'm cold again and flannel is so cozy.

So no to 100% flannel sheets and yes to the European method of two different insulation level twin size duvets - one with a brand new flannel cover. Just need to shift sides of the bed as needed :laughing
 
Hopefully it's a less fucking judgey of a world today
 
i_am_the_koi said:
Hopefully it's a less fucking judgey of a world today
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The world is always "judgey". So what? At any particular point in time, it's worth looking at what you have (a great wife, kid, job, etc) and what you wish you did have and run the calc; most people value what they have more than what they don't have when the idea of swapping one for the other seems...foreign and unknown. This hold true with friends too; I wouldn't swap my friends for a different set of "friends". Most I've known for decades and take the good and the bad. Siggy's one of my BFF's and he's HORRIBLE at calling back/ keeping touch. But, he's worth it, so I call him. Same for friends from college etc. They're all there for me when needed and wanted. I can't complain...great people with their own lives and families.

Don't get too down about relationships having ebbs and flows. It happens naturally and with your own life changes, there's likely some internal reality adjustments that don't square with your previous freedoms. IMO....and FWIW, every time I see you and we tell off color, horrible jokes, I walk away all the better, still laughing and glad we got some time together. That's the "meat" of friendship, J......!
 
My best friend I’ve known since we were 3 years old. And there have been times we didn’t have any contact for long periods of time. As much as 20 years. Our lives took precedence. But when we did finally get together it was like we’d only last seen each other yesterday.
 
I think we send out 44 or so Christmas cars, a dozen or so to family.

Have not seen many of those folks for years, and many, for decades.

Don't get a return card from most as that is old fashioned I guess.
 
Holeshot said:
Don't get too down about relationships having ebbs and flows. It happens naturally and with your own life changes, there's likely some internal reality adjustments that don't square with your previous freedoms. IMO....and FWIW, every time I see you and we tell off color, horrible jokes, I walk away all the better, still laughing and glad we got some time together. That's the "meat" of friendship, J......!
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The racing/track fam is the hardest one to get and categorize because it's exactly the issue I struggle with and yet it feels the most acceptable.

So many of the people I know, I only know because of the track. How do I call them my friend when our only reason for having a relationship is location based or transactional? If it wasn't for the track, there no reason to communicate. If it wasn't for my photos, there would be no use to some.

But...

The number of track people who have helped me away from the track, given to me and supported me at times because of knowing me at the track is my immediate argument against that thought. It's not consistent, it's not reliable, and it's never the same person.The number of people I've helped and gone out of my way to help because of knowing them at the track is also an actual number.

Then the track goes cold...

The tunnel gets dark...

And the light at the end seems way fucking far away.

They are more than acquaintances, but they're not.

They are more than colleagues, but they're not.

They are my friends, but they're not.


It has to be me.
 
OK, lets say that it 'IS YOU'.
What are you going to do about it?
Change who you are?
Change how you live?
Try and hold your 'friends' accountable?
Do nothing and keep complaining about no friends?
What can I/WE (Barf) do to help you deal with this/get past this?
Seriously.
 
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