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3rd Date No Kiss...Good or Bad?

Dubbington

Dubbington

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Last night was date #3 with this girl am I really into. I brought over food, wine, movies, popcorn and Flowers. We cooked at her place and were going to watch A Night at The Roxberry....she hasn't seen it which was almost a deal breaker :rofl

My plan was to make a move being the 3rd date and so she doesn think I am into dudes....not that there is anything wrong with that. :) But Friday I got a sore throat that turned into a stuffy nose and me sounding like I was sucking helium all day. I couldnt cancel because we are so busy plus I wanted to see her. I was taking meds all weekend with no luck. So since I didnt want to get her sick we ate, bs'd, drank some wine and made tentative plans later this week. I was there from 6-midnight and had some good conversation.

Question for Ladies mainly but all can chime in:

Is it a good thing or bad thing nothing has happened going into the 4th date? Do I say anything about that or just make a move on the 4th date?

Thanks BARF Fam! :thumbup

ps. Im going home sick today.
 
No problemo. You don't have to make the move. You're safe now. She knows you're light in teh loafers and a friend. Next time bring some yarn and crochet doilies.
 
You're not there but almost could be in the friend zone if you don't make a move soon.

The thing with going for the kiss close is that you need to escalate and in order for that there needs to be sexual tension or attraction.

For example if the only thing you've been doing is wining and dining her, talking her to death but not teasing her or touching her in a playful way do not expect to go from 0 to a full blown passionate kiss in seconds. She has to be comfortable with you touching (not groping) and attracted to you in some way for you to kiss her.
 
3rd? I have to +1 the comments above... something isn't progressing here.
 
^^^:laughing hey, at least you'll score dude!

in all fairness, if you don't want to get her sick, just say, "you know, I really want to kiss you, but don't want to get you sick".....and then jump her bones :laughing

EDIT: what am I thinking with posting the above...dude, you should always get them sick if you have a sore throat, then she will too....it's like peeing on your stuff, it becomes yours..and since you are both sick now, it won't be a problem in making out and shit. :teeth you shoulda just made her get sick with you. :laughing
 
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Ant said:
She's probably telling her gay co-worker about you and telling him you're single.
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I thought I would have got that on the 1st reply....lagging:twofinger

I'm trying hard to avoid the friend zone and can tell there's some tension there. I think the 4th date is make it break. I do understand that there wont be 0 - 60 which is fine with me....there has to be the build up.

machete said:
^^^:laughing hey, at least you'll score dude!

in all fairness, if you don't want to get her sick, just say, "you know, I really want to kiss you, but don't want to get you sick".....and then jump her bones :laughing
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Thought about that....might just do that.
 
machete said:
^^^:laughing hey, at least you'll score dude!

in all fairness, if you don't want to get her sick, just say, "you know, I really want to kiss you, but don't want to get you sick".....and then jump her bones :laughing

EDIT: what am I thinking with posting the above...dude, you should always get them sick if you have a sore throat, then she will too....it's like peeing on your stuff, it becomes yours..and since you are both sick now, it won't be a problem in making out and shit. :teeth you shoulda just made her get sick with you. :laughing
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And after she gets sore throat, tell her that going down on you is a sure way to cure it.:teeth

Wild sex is the best medicine.
 
Dubbington said:
I thought I would have got that on the 1st reply....lagging:twofinger

I'm trying hard to avoid the friend zone and can tell there's some tension there. I think the 4th date is make it break. I do understand that there wont be 0 - 60 which is fine with me....there has to be the build up.



Thought about that....might just do that.
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Haven't had my coffee yet :laughing
 
afm199 said:
No problemo. You don't have to make the move. You're safe now. She knows you're light in teh loafers and a friend. Next time bring some yarn and crochet doilies.
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This

Ant said:
She's probably telling her gay co-worker about you and telling him you're single.
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And this.
MAXX LEAN said:
Seriously though...:| Wine and a movie is fine. The rest is a bit overkill. What is she bringing to the table:confused
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And this too.
 
MAXX LEAN said:
Captain Sav-um... :twofinger :rofl


Seriously though...:| Wine and a movie is fine. The rest is a bit overkill. What is she bringing to the table:confused
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Sorry I was raised a Gentleman :twofinger

She paid for the 2nd date, we did sushi. So I had to return the favor.

She's legit...Berkeley grad, architect major employed. Very funny/sarcastic which works well with my humor too.
 
I think you need a direct approach to asking her out on date #4: "Wanna come over and make out while we pretend to watch some cheesy movie?"

:laughing

Reminds me of the story some BARFer told about pulling in to a liquor store with a girl...handed her a note and told her to put a comma in the sentence while he went and grabbed some booze..."wanna get fucked up at my place?"
 
Dubbington said:
Sorry I was raised a Gentleman :twofinger

She paid for the 2nd date, we did sushi. So I had to return the favor.

She's legit...Berkeley grad, architect major employed. Very funny/sarcastic which works well with my humor too.
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seriously. RUN. :laughing

(see in bold)
 
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