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Dating older women

Zed10R

Zed10R

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Beauregard posted about 35 yr old and + chicks nor getting dates. Personally I only want to date women 35 or older. Less drama. Less bitchy. Less controlling. Less overbearing. More self confident. More comfortable with their own bodies. I could go on and on with the benefits, but here is one HUGE negative that's really tripping me up:

Right now My gf of 2 years has reached menopause. Hot flashes, highly emotional, and ZERO sex drive. I don't know what to do. I wanted to marry this woman but I need to be totally honest with myself...I am not ok with never having sex again. She doesn't want to seek any kind of medical therapy for her hormones, prefering to just let nature do it's thing. I repsect her choice, but I'm in a serious bind now. I'm 35...and she's still hot. She works out twice a day, always takes care of herself, looks 15 years younger than she is, and USED to be a total nympho. I still lust after her every day, but our relationship has taken on the feeling of "just frinds".

So guys...if you were "this close" to proposing to your woman, and she all the sudden said that her sex drive was dead, maybe forever, and had no desire to seek any possible solution, what would you do?

:wtf
 
Her sex drive will return. I would not 'propose' though. Hell, you never know what else may change during the next year or two. I've dated a couple of Wiomen while they were going through the 'change'. It was rough, but later things did improve.

Just give it time and I'm sure things will improve.
 
Zed10R said:
Beauregard posted about 35 yr old and + chicks nor getting dates. Personally I only want to date women 35 or older. Less drama. Less bitchy. Less controlling. Less overbearing. More self confident. More comfortable with their own bodies. I could go on and on with the benefits, but here is one HUGE negative that's really tripping me up:

Right now My gf of 2 years has reached menopause. Hot flashes, highly emotional, and ZERO sex drive. I don't know what to do. I wanted to marry this woman but I need to be totally honest with myself...I am not ok with never having sex again. She doesn't want to seek any kind of medical therapy for her hormones, prefering to just let nature do it's thing. I repsect her choice, but I'm in a serious bind now. I'm 35...and she's still hot. She works out twice a day, always takes care of herself, looks 15 years younger than she is, and USED to be a total nympho. I still lust after her every day, but our relationship has taken on the feeling of "just frinds".

So guys...if you were "this close" to proposing to your woman, and she all the sudden said that her sex drive was dead, maybe forever, and had no desire to seek any possible solution, what would you do?

:wtf
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How old is she?
 
Zed10R said:
So guys...if you were "this close" to proposing to your woman, and she all the sudden said that her sex drive was dead, maybe forever, and had no desire to seek any possible solution, what would you do?
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Post on BARF about it.

No, wait! I'd talk to her about it...sorry, that first option always trips me up!
 
lefty said:
Her sex drive will return. I would not 'propse' though. Hell, you never know what else may change during the next year or two.

Just give it time and I'm sure things will improve.
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Thanks Lefty...that helps. I never had to deal with this before. No, I'm not sure what will happen in the next year or so, but I always thought that there isn't much left to figure out about a woman after being with her for 2 years.

I'll just be real good friends with kindgirls.com for the forseeable future....
 
just make sure your "take out the garbage" drive or "squish the spiders" drive is also zero for awhile.

Also works well if your "honey-do" drive is also synced to her sex drive as well :)
 
Asphaultnaut said:
just make sure your "take out the garbage" drive or "squish the spiders" drive is also zero for awhile.

Also works well if your "honey-do" drive is also synced to her sex drive as well :)
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absolutely, because the best relationships are petty and vindictive at their core
 
Asphaultnaut said:
just make sure your "take out the garbage" drive or "squish the spiders" drive is also zero for awhile.

Also works well if your "honey-do" drive is also synced to her sex drive as well :)
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Seeing as how her lack of libido is, as far as I have been able to learn, not exactly her choice or preferred state of being, I will continue to treat her like gold. I'll keep telling her she is sexy and beautiful, and I'll do my best to not be pushy or make her feel awkward. If I had even the slightst inkling that she was giving it to someone else though..then you'd be right on the money. There is a hell of a lot more to this woman than her sex skills.

Does anyone have any idea how long the menopausal vanishing of desire lasts? A female perspective would be very welcome....
 
imurdaddy415 said:
Run for the hills!
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She's not the devil or some nasty manipulative bitch. Imagine the woman you would WANT to marry....but then remove the sex. No running away should be involved. But i have considered telling her that I might have to move on. I think I'll put that line thinking out of my head for a while because of what the guys with experience in the matter have said.
 
I dated a post-menopausal woman, she was taking a hormone mix which included testosterone cream. OMG her libido was amazing, also, she was blond so the little mustache wasn't noticeable.
 
I have the opposite going on right now and I feel like a dirty old man, in a good way.
 
you shouldn't Lefty. It is a really complicated situation...

I never seem to quite get these things right.
 
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