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Is finding a dude tough for chicks over 35?

Mr. right was usually already snatched up by now.

I think the kid is a huge negative. Plus single mothers are seen as an easy mark.
 
Papi-C said:
Mr. right was usually already snatched up by now.
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bah...the "perfect man" that a woman want already has a boyfriend of his own...

wimmenz are stuck with douche's and will learn to like it...:x
 
V4 said:
It's hard for a woman to find a good quality man at any age...

ladies, I'm not mr Right, but I'll be happy to fulfill your sexual needs until your prince charming comes along...

PM me now...
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Ladies never mind this guy , i am all of the above . :twofinger
 
It's not that they are not getting asked out.....


...it's that they are not getting asked out by rich dudes who look like Brad Pitt and do what they are told.
 
oh hi guys :wave

sorry, I was at lunch :toothless

hmmm. me. over 40 (shit, pushing 50) relatively successful job wise/house/financially (save the bouts of unemployment here and there), not toooooo shabby looking, not that bright but not dumb either, gots me baggage but knows it (don't deal with it too well all the time, but still), caring, generous and thoughtful (except when not) and for the most part, ALL I DO IS INTIMIDATE MEN :cry

dunno where I am going with this, but yeah, I don't get asked out too often, never did when I was much younger either. For whatever reason. Or all of the above

I'm rambling. Bottom line is, I have been told by many male friends that I am too intimidating, I need to be more of a wall flower

Two words to say to that

FUCK THAT :x :p
 
So 35 to 40 y/o intelligent, attractive and successful woman seeks what? Most likely a 35 to 40 y/o intelligent, attractive and successful man. How many of those stay single for very long? I would be willing to bet it is less about can they get a date, but can they get a date with someone they feel meets the mark?
 
fast4d said:
guys are intimidated by really hot, rich and successful women.
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mercurial said:
You always hear about it anecdotally; older women having issues finding a partner. Its probably a variety of reasons; not wanting to deal with someone else's kids, men looking for younger women, men dying faster than women.

Other less obvious things also probably come into play, some men might feel challenged by women that are extremely successful (and maybe earn more than them). It also probably works in reverse (highly successful women expect more of a man, and that limits options).
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ohio said:
Common.

Problem is when it gets serious... I want to have kids and I don't want to have them now. If that's the case, I can't get serious with a woman over 35. Turns out I couldn't get serious with a girl pushing 32 because she felt like she needed to start trying to get pregnant within 2 years... even though I would have been willing to take the risk of not starting to try until she was in her late 30s.

So yeah, to be blunt, once a women breaks 35, her only options are guys that either already have or don't want kids. Or casual, freaky fun.
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macadamizer said:
I know several woman that fit the same demographic, late thirties - early forties, attractive, successful, and from my perspective, the problem is not so much with the guys, its with the women. It's not that there aren't guys out there, its just the these successful women want guys who are at least as successful as they are, guys who are willing to deal with their baggage without have baggage of his own, etc. It seems that some women get more and more picky even as the pool of available men who meet their requirements gets smaller and smaller.
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Good insight.

It is interesting that when they ask me if I know any good guys they always qualify it with "any SINGLE guys." Leading me to believe they get hit on, but my married dudes.
 
Papi-C said:
@f4ichic

Perhaps you need to be more demure
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fuck you and the horse you rode in on :x :twofinger

oopsie, I mean, of course Sir, anything you say Sir

Would you like a sammich :angel :toothless
 
NONCENTS said:
Hold the pickles :p
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and likely therein lies the problem, I make them hold their own pickles :rofl

dirty buggers, that's what men are, dirty buggers

oh hi Beadacious, sorry for threadjacking
 
I have a good friend that also meets your description: Over 35, great looking, owns her own business, etc.

And she also complains that she can't meet anyone. But the thing is, she has impossible standards. She hasn't yet realized that perfection doesn't exist. :dunno

Guys have a saying: Pretty, smart, sane - pick two. I'm sure there's some equivalent in the other direction.
 
Papi-C said:
I don't think a demure would be yes sir, no sir. Just less hell bent for leather.
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you really have no clue about me, none whatsoever ;)

anyhoo, when I hit 50 I will quit the whole dating scene, or whatever it is. I can hardly compete as is with all the young hotties, hitting 50 will be the final nail in the coffin I bet.

Oh well, I still gots me katz :)
 
F4iChic said:
you really have no clue about me, none whatsoever ;)

anyhoo, when I hit 50 I will quit the whole dating scene, or whatever it is. I can hardly compete as is with all the young hotties, hitting 50 will be the final nail in the coffin I bet.

Oh well, I still gots me katz :)
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I know nothing about you but thanks to the internet I'm an expert :rofl

You got catz and peanut butter :wow:shocker
 
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