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Kids and swearing.

I may be wrong, but I think he just said that we should smack kids that cuss upside the head and teach them some manners. :laughing
 
T-1 Thunder said:
I may be wrong, but I think he just said that we should smack kids that cuss upside the head and teach them some manners. :laughing
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Actually, we should start with the parents.
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Words have power. Some more than others. They are tools that can be used for various ends, often with unintended consequences. How do you introduce these tools to a child?
 
she's 11. she hears it (occasionally from us)
she doesn't repeat them. no one had to tell her they were bad, she just seemed to know and she never says them

I'm hoping we can get another year or two out of her with this :)
 
Hooli said:
Actually, we should start with the parents.
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That's what I mean, in a three stooges sort of way.

Smack the parents, have them smack the kids. Kids can smack themselves again just for good measure.

It's win for everyone involved!
 
I never swear around my kid at home, ever. Last thing I want to hear is "dada what does fuck mean?"
 
I don't have kids of my own, so my opinion apparently doesn't matter.
 
My kids are currently too little to be swearing at all. We even stop them with "what the.." as it implys "what the hell?"

When they get a little older, of course there will be a little more latitude, but I'm hoping to instill that cursing is for people that are not intelligent or eloquent enough to find the proper words to express what they mean.
 
How you talk will have the biggest influence on your kids. My dad NEVER swore. My Mom swore like a sailor when the shit hit the fan. Guess who now swears like sailor when the shit hits the fan? :p

Ironically, the first time I openly swore in front of my dad, was during a sail race and I called the guy we were chasing down a bastard. I was about 10 or 11 and had no idea what it meant but my Dad was PISSED. :laughing The irony was that I didn't hear it in a movie or from one of my friends at school... I read it in a book. :teeth

Steve
 
I can't remember anyone around me when I was a kid that didn't swear. I never got into trouble for it at school, as I just didn't do it in the wrong place at the wrong time.

My Mom said my grandmother was once married to an attorney that swore like crazy when she was a kid. And the whole family, including my grandmother, swore like crazy ever since.

As an adult, I know when and where swearing is proper, if ever. As a parent, I cannot keep my kid from hearing swear words either at home occasionally or elsewhere. So what I will do is allow my child to view their value properly, and learn to use them in proper context, if she chooses to do so at all.

There will be no inherent stigma as in that of a "bad" word. Words are tools, and I'll teach her how to use those tools to get the results she wants.
 
I keep it pretty clean around my kids, but my ex swears up a blue streak whenever she fucking goddamn well pleases. And she just authorized the word shit. For the kids. As long as they keep it in the house.

That made for interesting dinner conversation.
 
I work more on teaching my kids to be respectful of others and teaching them to choose words that best fit the situation.

I try not to cuss around other people unless we are laughing and joking.
 
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