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Seems like he'd be a fun guy to mess with. Call him at 2am crying and tell him you hate yourself, but make the call from inside a bar and have everyone be super quiet, then have everyone burst into laughter and hang up.
 
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N4teTheGreat said:
The longer I am out of work the more I wonder how I ever got hired / retained in the first place. At this rate I don't see myself landing a tech / corporate job anytime soon.
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This is a really weird time. Up until late 2021, tech companies were largely being rewarded by analysts for "growth at all costs." They were using the "Rule of 40" to identify unicorn companies and the rule goes like this: Take your percentage growth year over year and add that to your gross profit percentage. If the two numbers add up to 40 or more, you're a unicorn and your valuation would go through the roof.

For a couple of scenarios:
  • Company A is growing 30% YoY and its profit is 10%. Those numbers add up to 40 and Company A is a unicorn.
  • Company B is growing 60% YoY and they are losing 10% per year. 60 + (-10) = 50, so holy smokes, another unicorn.
In the fall of 2021, analysts started weighting profitability much more heavily than growth. The rule of 40 is still the rule of 40, but they take profitability into account much more than they did before. This change happened over about a two week period.

When the change occurred, tech companies immediately started downsizing to try to keep their valuations high. A lot of the layoffs from that period were driven by this and momentum picked up as these companies followed each other like lemmings to trim their workforces.

The capital markets are still rough, so a hiring slowdown persists, made worse by ATS systems filtering out good candidates for stupid reasons. I'm sure there are other factors too, but the point is, it's not just just you. Whatever you brought to the party before, you still bring to the party, but the question is whether your target companies value those skills enough to hire for them now. Any of your skillset that can be reasonably approximated by AI makes your prospects that much harder. Emphasizing the skills that AI doesn't cover might help.
 
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GAJ said:
His brother sounds like a complete asshole.
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He always has been.

It's why I'm not entertaining this idea that this is another one of his times where he wants to try again and then fucks it up. Been there, done that.

I'm not against the idea of reconciling but it will take a bit more (sarcasm) than feeling bad over a holiday. To be honest, I really don't need or want it. When I talk with my mom on the phone, usually she doesn't even bother bringing him up in any capacity because she knows I don't want to hear it or care at all.

The only thing I promised my mom is I will do whatever I can to help her. She'll be 75 next week, she's not getting any younger... Not to be too morbid but when she's gone, she hopes that her two sons can at least be... diplomatic... for lack of a better word. Her thoughts, not mine.

I've said it many times before, part of this is why I do my best to be a good big brother to my little sister. She's not blood related, 'adopted' is the easiest way to explain our relationship. Just doing the best I can because I don't really have an example of what a big brother is supposed to be. I think I've been doing okay for the past 15 years.
 
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I had a falling out with my brother years ago. The rest of the family pretty much sided with me. Family functions became uncomfortable for him and his wife, so they stopped showing up. A few years later, they upped and moved away without saying anything to anyone. My other brother tried to contact him, but would never hear back and gave up after a few tries. Fast forward about 10 years, my mother has been sick and is dying in hospice care. She doesn't understand how things got so bad, and she wants to see him, but no one can reach him... and we're all pretty pissed off about it. So, after she passes away, while trying to settle the estate, we find that he killed himself about 6 years earlier. The only bright spot is that she never knew. I don't know exactly what I would do differently, something... but there's no do-overs. Just something to consider. I think about it daily.
 
tzrider said:
This is a really weird time.
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it's actually pretty bad in my mind. I think a pyramid scheme of capital (and no social system) in the west, is leading to outsourcing to other countries. I'm kinda deflated. The baker asked me "what have you been up to?" after he knew what was my previous (recent) job.
N4teTheGreat said:
At this rate I don't see myself landing a tech / corporate job anytime soon.
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damn!!!! :-|

eek
 
Rtmac said:
I had a falling out with my brother years ago. The rest of the family pretty much sided with me. Family functions became uncomfortable for him and his wife, so they stopped showing up. A few years later, they upped and moved away without saying anything to anyone. My other brother tried to contact him, but would never hear back and gave up after a few tries. Fast forward about 10 years, my mother has been sick and is dying in hospice care. She doesn't understand how things got so bad, and she wants to see him, but no one can reach him... and we're all pretty pissed off about it. So, after she passes away, while trying to settle the estate, we find that he killed himself about 6 years earlier. The only bright spot is that she never knew. I don't know exactly what I would do differently, something... but there's no do-overs. Just something to consider. I think about it daily.
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Wow.

Glad my siblings, all of whom I've had issues with over the years, grew beyond their tantrums.

Telling siblings the truth is not a great idea it seems at times!
 
Rtmac said:
I had a falling out with my brother years ago. The rest of the family pretty much sided with me. Family functions became uncomfortable for him and his wife, so they stopped showing up. A few years later, they upped and moved away without saying anything to anyone. My other brother tried to contact him, but would never hear back and gave up after a few tries. Fast forward about 10 years, my mother has been sick and is dying in hospice care. She doesn't understand how things got so bad, and she wants to see him, but no one can reach him... and we're all pretty pissed off about it. So, after she passes away, while trying to settle the estate, we find that he killed himself about 6 years earlier. The only bright spot is that she never knew. I don't know exactly what I would do differently, something... but there's no do-overs. Just something to consider. I think about it daily.
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That's a really heavy story, dude... You couldn't have done anything differently. The past is the past. But as you said, she never knew so that is some comfort I suppose. Not knowing the whole truth.
 
AbsolutEnduser said:
it's actually pretty bad in my mind. I think a pyramid scheme of capital (and no social system) in the west, is leading to outsourcing to other countries. I'm kinda deflated. The baker asked me "what have you been up to?" after he knew what was my previous (recent) job.

damn!!!! :-|

eek
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Now, more than ever is a time where using your network and trying to grow it is most likely to find the next opportunity. You've probably heard all that before, but it's generally true.

It works in odd ways. You may have conversations that point you in different directions and keep connecting with people who don't have positions but know other people. This might lead to the next job, but you could also get a response to an application via LinkedIn. I think the activity of networking helps you keep your head in the game, work out your elevator pitch and perhaps point you in directions you might not have thought of.

I know it's a profoundly frustrating process. Keep at it.
 
Kurosaki said:
That's a really heavy story, dude...
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Almost the exact words I would have used.

My best friend from high school and I are still in touch. In his family, his sister was the black sheep that everyone disconnected from. His story could well play out the same way, as there is no sign that they will communicate with one another, let alone reconcile. Way too much water under the bridge.
 
As long as I hold 2nd brother, he doesn't cry.

If I don't... Screaming.

I'm trying to figure out which arm I'm weaker on and how to use him to help my shoulder, and how to get 20 fucking minutes to use both arms.

Luckily wolverine has been a perfect angel today.

If he does this tomorrow I'm just pulling out the baby carrier and renaming him Kuato
 
Baby curls! Can you put him in one of those swaddle things so he's attached to you but your arms are free? Friend has used that for both his kids with decent success.
 
quick! hes goin forit!
tzrider said:
Now, more than ever is a time where using your network and trying to grow it is most likely to find the next opportunity. You've probably heard all that before, but it's generally true.

It works in odd ways. You may have conversations that point you in different directions and keep connecting with people who don't have positions but know other people. This might lead to the next job, but you could also get a response to an application via LinkedIn. I think the activity of networking helps you keep your head in the game, work out your elevator pitch and perhaps point you in directions you might not have thought of.

I know it's a profoundly frustrating process. Keep at it.
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Thanks for the intelligently written advice.

Problem also lies a bit deeper. I should follow up more on some people but time has already ran. It's def good to follow up on "network". But I really have to work hard to print this advice above and stick to it..

as some (two... three?) of you know I had another job recently. While there, I met this other dude I knew from the last time. He said... "I talked to you last time, you were bitter [and disillusioned]". Well, yeah. We literally had people in this thread that had less hoops to jump through and arguably had better jerbs. :dunno s*it is bad . Have to pull up on my britches a bit more.
 
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