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RANT: kids (parents) these days

Joe_13 said:
If one of my kids calls me "Joe".

Their siblings will get their share of the inheritance.
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There is a family in the kid's circle where the adolescent kids call their parents by their first name. On occasion I've seen the kids interact with their parents as if they're peers.
 
Enchanter said:
There is a family in the kid's circle where the adolescent kids call their parents by their first name. On occasion I've seen the kids interact with their parents as if they're peers.
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In your opinion, what should the transition between child to parent and adult to adult communication look like? Im curious about any way you want to characterize it.


I’ll lay all my cards on the table by saying “obedience” has never been a value I highly prize :laughing
 
Mike95060 said:
In your opinion, what should the transition between child to parent and adult to adult communication look like? Im curious about any way you want to characterize it.


I’ll lay all my cards on the table by saying “obedience” has never been a value I highly prize :laughing
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I'm not onboard with children addressing their elders by first name at any point.

For all the rest, see below. While the salutation is important to me, the behavior is much more so. I'll cringe inside and deal with the first name if they act respectful.
cheez said:
Growing up in Louisiana it was always Mr. <firstname> or Ms. <firstname> for all adults. "Mr. <lastname>" was reserved for formalities and strangers.
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I never addressed by girlfriend's parents by their first name, even when I was in my 40s.

Side story #1: I had a girlfriend whose parentS were medical doctors. My GF said I should address them as Dr. <last name>, and I refused and said "They aren't my Dr." It really stressed her out for weeks. We eventually got feedback from her parents that they appreciated the Miss / Mister <first name> and it was respectful and refreshing.

Side story #2: When my kid starts dating, I'm planning on having a conversation with their dates where they switch from just my first name, to Mr. Tim while they are in the relationship. Not. Kidding.
 
In my opinion, in order not to offend, I’d go with Mr. or Ms. until I’m told by the recipient not to be so formal.

Being called by my first name by someone I just met is too familiar for my taste and a little creepy in some cases.
 
I was thinking about this and some of the 30yo’s who are friends of my youngest call me Denny or Budman.

The Bman by a couple of moto riders. All good.
 
Enchanter said:
I'm not onboard with children addressing their elders by first name at any point.

For all the rest, see below. While the salutation is important to me, the behavior is much more so. I'll cringe inside and deal with the first name if they act respectful.

I never addressed by girlfriend's parents by their first name, even when I was in my 40s.

Side story #1: I had a girlfriend whose parentS were medical doctors. My GF said I should address them as Dr. <last name>, and I refused and said "They aren't my Dr." It really stressed her out for weeks. We eventually got feedback from her parents that they appreciated the Miss / Mister <first name> and it was respectful and refreshing.

Side story #2: When my kid starts dating, I'm planning on having a conversation with their dates where they switch from just my first name, to Mr. Tim while they are in the relationship. Not. Kidding.
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I still call my stepmom "Ms Cheryl". She's 78 and I'm almost 50.
 
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