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Rude homeless guy

jh2586

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So on my way to grab a burrito from a local taqueria in Sac, a homeless guy approached me and asked me if I could buy him some food. I'm not a big fan of giving money to people, but I don't mind buying food for someone who is hungry. So I told him go ahead and order whatever you want. He ordered his food to go. I sat down at my table after paying for both meals, the lady gave him his food and he walked away. Didn't say "thank you", didn't shake my hand, not even eye contact. Just up and left, as if he bought it himself.

Now I'm not sure if this guy had a mental condition, and obviously this doesn't apply if so, but certain people make it difficult to help them out. I mean, I don't blame the working class for being reluctant to help the homeless or less fortunate because I suspect, more often times than not, they are really rude about it. How are these people expecting to get out of their situation by being bitter or rude to people when they are receiving their help? I know this doesn't apply to every single homeless person as I know there are those who are legitimately in need and are grateful, but was this an instance of someone who just didn't care about anything and just ruined the experience for someone else?

I'll be very reluctant to buy anyone anything after experiencing that.
 
most I've met around my office peg you for a sucker if you give money/food to them

really makes it hard to want to help out.

:|
 
good for you for helping out someone in need. I will thank you for him, ok?

thank you!
 
jh2586 said:
So on my way to grab a burrito from a local taqueria in Sac, a homeless guy approached me and asked me if I could buy him some food. I'm not a big fan of giving money to people, but I don't mind buying food for someone who is hungry. So I told him go ahead and order whatever you want. He ordered his food to go. I sat down at my table after paying for both meals, the lady gave him his food and he walked away. Didn't say "thank you", didn't shake my hand, not even eye contact. Just up and left, as if he bought it himself.

Now I'm not sure if this guy had a mental condition, and obviously this doesn't apply if so, but certain people make it difficult to help them out. I mean, I don't blame the working class for being reluctant to help the homeless or less fortunate because I suspect, more often times than not, they are really rude about it. How are these people expecting to get out of their situation by being bitter or rude to people when they are receiving their help? I know this doesn't apply to every single homeless person as I know there are those who are legitimately in need and are grateful, but was this an instance of someone who just didn't care about anything and just ruined the experience for someone else?

I'll be very reluctant to buy anyone anything after experiencing that.
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Giving is the act of giving. If you expect something back, it's buying.
 
I'm not sure I follow some of your opinions. Since when is saying "thank you" considered giving something back?
 
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jh2586 said:
I'm not sure I follow some of your opinions. Since when does saying "thank you" is considered expecting something back?
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+1

Fuck that guy. Most likely, he'll stay homeless because of his attitude.
 
This is how I read this thread.

"I think homeless people are losers who deserve their lot in life, I am going to pass on a (possibly ficticious) story about a lack of gratitude so that maybe someone reading it would be encouraged to not help a hungry person."

wazzuFreddo said:
most I've met around my office peg you for a sucker if you give money/food to them

really makes it hard to want to help out.

:|
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Reli said:
+1

Fuck that guy. Most likely, he'll stay homeless because of his attitude.
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Mission accomplished.

Give out of gratitude, not for gratitude.
 
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maybe he was just really hungry and you were already sitting down with your food.
 
jh2586 said:
I'm not sure I follow some of your opinions. Since when does saying "thank you" is considered giving something back?
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If you exchange money as a gift, it's a fucking GIFT. If you hand someone money EXPECTING them to act the way you want, it's purchase. Transaction = money for services or commodities. In this case, you're buying a service and making yourself feel good. In this case you feel you got ripped off in the transaction ( no service for money) and feel taken advantage of.

I give to the homeless. I don't give a fuck if they say thanks. If they do, it's a bonus.

I came across a homeless lady once, sitting on the steps of the Oakland Tribune building. (This was back when Oakland had cops on horses, twenty years ago maybe.) Homeless women on the street have a very hard life. I handed her a $5. She looked at me, told me to go fuck myself. Started ranting, so I stuck it back in my pocket. It's not a big deal.

Then a horseback cop happened along and told her she had to move. :rofl:rofl:rofl:rofl:rofl:rofl She, I'm sure, thought: "What are you going to do to me? Take my home away?" She reamed him up, down and sideways. I've never heard a similar tirade from a woman. He sat there for a bit and then just left. :laughing:laughing

I never thought I'd agree with HI, street action works sometimes to end police oppression.

There's a popular myth that the homeless are there because of lack of character, weakness, and laziness. It's a myth. Sleeping in the rain at age 54 is not fun. Much less when it's all you have to look forward to for the rest of your short life.
 
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one time I paid for the car behind me on the bay bridge but that fucking asshole didn't haul ass to get next to me and wave.

never doing that again.
 
So you guys would be OK if your son or nephew just took his Xmas present without saying thanks?
 
Reli said:
So you guys would be OK if your son or nephew just took his Xmas present without saying thanks?
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That ungrateful little shit says thanks cuz he will get more if he does. :twofinger

mikev said:
one time I paid for the car behind me on the bay bridge but that fucking asshole didn't haul ass to get next to me and wave.

never doing that again.
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I appreciated that! (Back in the day when tolls were $2 I used to hand the toll taker a $10 and tell them to let the next five through. I'd always get a couple of horn honks and waves.)
 
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Human Ills said:
This is how I read this thread.

"I think homeless people are losers who deserve their lot in life, I am going to pass on a (possibly ficticious) story about a lack of gratitude so that maybe someone reading it would be encouraged to not help a hungry person."






Mission accomplished.

Give out of gratitude, not for gratitude.
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So your solution is to give to people in need, regardless of the situation? I think it most instances, that would be called enabling. Give to the needy, but do it smartly. That's why I don't give money to people. Food, that's a different story.

Not everyone out there deserves to be helped, and sadly, those who do, usually don't get help.
 
Had a guy at McDonalds last week, standing by the door, say, "Give me a dollar". Didn't ask, didn't say he's hungry. Just, "Give me a dollar".

Work. Try it some time.
 
jh2586 said:
So your solution is to give to people in need, regardless of the situation? I think it most instances, that would be called enabling.
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OR it would actually be called charitable/selfless/etc

Give to the needy, but do it smartly. That's why I don't give money to people. Food, that's a different story.

Not everyone out there deserves to be helped, and sadly, those who do, usually don't get help.
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Curious as to what makes you deem someone "worthy" of help
 
I never give the homeless money or food. Only beer. :x

This one guy hit me up a couple days ago outside 7-11, he was pretty nice actually but his story about how he needed to take the bus or whatever just made me laugh cos he was an obvious junkie :laughing
 
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