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Thai love scam?

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Need some advice here.

Today my father in law announced that he is going to Thailand to meet his online girlfriend, and needs a ride to the airport. He booked the trip yesterday, and is leaving in two days. His flight is one way into Thailand, with no return trip booked. He says he is planning on staying for 30 days, and if things go well, she will come back here to visit with him before Thanksgiving.

This is totally out of the blue. He has done zero planning. We looked up visa requirements, and to get into the country he needs to have a return flight booked. He is disabled, and has prescription medication. He has to have paperwork filled out by a doctor to bring his medication in, but he hasn't done any of it.

To top it all off, his girlfriend told him to only bring a few days of clothes because clothes are cheaper to buy there. Don't bring a toothbrush. Don't bring a camera because her sister has a nice camera and likes to take pictures. :wow

There are red flags flying everywhere. I am pretty sure this is some scam. He is very stubborn, and it will be difficult to convince him that this is not a good idea. He has never traveled abroad, and is disabled, so he will be completely unable to defend himself. Family is currently planning an intervention. Any advice on what we can do?

TLDR:
Father in law getting scammed to fly to Thailand, and we are afraid he will never come back. Need to convince him the scam is a scam.
 
I'm wondering if it's best to do nothing? As in, if they don't let him in, does he have to go home, or does he buy a ticket while there and then they let him through?
 
TripleSeven said:
Oh wow wow. Um. Tell him you're sorry but the Russians have just nuked Thailand.
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this...

did he ask directly if his girlfriend was originally a guy...?

could change some things...

:facepalm
 
scam red alert! if he's persistent, he can easily get himself to thailand. (byke, they'll let him in. the airline in the us won't let him on the plane w/o a return ticket, but they'll also sell him one on the spot.)

you can contact http://www.stickmanweekly.com/ThailandBargirlInvestigations.html . or dig around his site. (note: likely nsfw. there is (or was years ago) a lot more content than just bargirls, but that's a big focus.)

otoh i've known of people who 'fell' for such scams and while it messed up their family something fierce, it led to at least some form of legit (if messed up) relationship.
 
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This US expat living in Bangkok has quite a few videos on the subject.
He's pretty brutal when dealing with folks like your father. It seems to be a fairly common problem there.
I've been a fan of his rants for a while. :)
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCurctSeouvoryzOlBcjxGbQ

Also I remember watching this series. yes is staged. But it presents very much real scams.
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Clothes are cheaper there.
Last time I checked you don't need visa to get to Thailand, but he is staying a month so it might be different.

No one checks what prescription drugs you have. As long as it's legal.

Prostitution is rampant there. If you have money you can find a "girlfriend" while there.

Most likely a scam but a long the lines of a ticket to move to US.
 
He is very gullible, and would probably fall for any scam thrown at him. If I could, I would just up an leave, but that is not an option. I have young kids. I wish I could call the airline and tell them not to let him travel, but he is a grown man. We thought about just refusing to take him to the airport on the day of his flight, but he is probably stubborn enough to just book another ticket.
 
This list may help:

Too Tall:
Generally Thai girls are not very tall, but almost all katoeys are taller than average, with heights of 180cm not being unusual.

Too Feminine:
Look at the way she uses make up, the way she walks and moves her arms or hands, especially over-enthusiastic hair flicking... no real girl would need to act this way at every moment, like she is walking on a constant catwalk.

Overacts and Overreacts a lot:
Way more than necessary, often loudly in a high-pitched, exaggerated voice. It gets even worse in a conflict. Certainly, don't ever pick a fight with a ladyboy - you can't be sure of the outcome!

Too Large Breasts:
This again is not an absolute rule but too big and often provocative is a good indicator. They often cheerfully invite you to check 'how real they feel'... it's more a question of appreciating their financial investment.

No Bra!
This is always interesting - In Thailand, no matter how small the breast and how open-minded a girl is, even in gogo bars, girls always wear a bra! If she doesn't, especially when combined with points 1 and 4, you are probably talking to a katoey.

The Voice:
In the majority of the cases, voices - even trained voices - are still what gives many katoeys away. The pitch might be higher than men's voices but it somehow sounds unnatural.

Adam's Apple:
This is a tricky one as Adam's Apples can be surgically removed, but if she has one, you can call her 'sir'.

The Dress Code:
Just like the overacting, the way a ladyboy dresses is usually a lot sexier than most girls. Add a generous amount of make up, feathers and glitter and you get a girl that has become so feminine and flamboyant that things start to get suspicious.

The Elbows:
One of the most unclear indicators, supposedly men's elbows are more square than a girl's.

The Final Check:
The ID card - no matter how feminine you are or if you use the ladies bathroom, even after a sex reassignment surgery, your ID will still show your real gender.
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Lonely folks will do the darnedest things to find companionship. Good luck, OP, I hope it all turns out ok.
 
Scary.

Sounds like s desperate and lonely man whose letting himself be blinded from reality, which is actually very sad
 
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ask her if she owns a ducati..

if yes, it's a guy...

run..
 
Get power of attorney, freeze his assets and update his will/trust to make your wife sole heir.

Do it or what he has left will be gone within 24 hrs of his plane landing.
 
It's a boy girl or girl boy? have him get a 500k life ins policy before he goes. You won't out think his manhood. He's on a mission and he's going
 
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