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The Tale of King Calamari (or, How I Learned Never to Help People)

Norbs said:
You know that saying... "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink."?

Don't bother but I'm not sure why you'd want to keep people like this around as a friend. Keeping people around like this actually does you more harm than you realize.
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He's not a friend. Really sick of his shit at this point. He probably thinks he is... he just doesn't get that I'm only helping him out because I think he's hella irresponsible.

Centauri said:
You seem too nice to tell him to eff off.
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I see him often cos we park in the same space sometimes. I said before it could cause me problems with other people to be a total dick to him (which is usually what I revert to) so I have to just let it go.
 
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I would say, look, I was okay with you endangering your own life, but do you really want to be responsible for sending your girlfriend to the hospital, or the morgue? I don't.
 
Abyss said:
He's not a friend. Really sick of his shit at this point. He probably thinks he is... he just doesn't get that I'm only helping him out because I think he's hella irresponsible.
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Bummer bro. Kinda like seeing a needy dog in the street and you give it food and pet it. Now it follows you home, bark & howl late and night, craps on your porch, and is always looking for hand-outs. Mofo just won't go away. Cut the cord on him and let him know the "good Samaritan man is now adios so git ta steppin fool!" Don't even think about giving him your helmet because that may be the last time you see it IMO
 
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Let him learn the hard way, through a broken chain or a popped tire. You've already done more than your part, some people just need to learn by experiencing it.

I wonder if this guy's motorcycle is the same one I saw in the Mission SF area with about 5 inches of chain slack nearly touching the ground while parked (but it had douchey chrome and flames all over it)
 
When I was a teenager first working in the bicycle industry, the leather hairnet helmet was still popular. It was like wearing a padded baseball cap.

I tried to convince someone to buy a hardshell helmet, and I almost got into a fight with the guy.

Faced with an idiot who didn't care about his safety and an uncaring boss who would have been glad to dump used motor oil into the ocean if it made him a buck, it was a frustrating moment.

Fast forward to today I realize there is a right way to do things. I would refuse to sell unsafe equipment, knowing that I could get a better job someplace where they do the right thing. And as an adult, I believe I would have convinced the guy to buy an useful helmet.

As for your Busa friend, he does sound intellectually challenged. But you might not be the best person to talk to him.

Maybe no one can change his mind, but I would hope he isn't so stupid that 100 people talking to him does not change his mind.
 
Congratulations! :party You have met the Original Definition of a Squid!






Now kick him to the curb, and start parking your bike in a different spot. :laughing
 
" Sorry man, but I've come to the conclusion that you are too dumb to help any further. Let's not speak ever again, ok ? "
 
I once severed a relationship with a neighbor. I said "Look, you and I got along great before we ever met. Let's go back to communicating as frequently as we did then." He had to think about it for a minute. :laughing
 
People are hilarious. A friend of a friend said he was originally going to get a Hayabusa as his starter bike because he believes in "Going all out", but he's not going to anymore because his cousin did that and died.

I could not believe the logic. "It's ok to do something incredibly dangerous and stupid until something makes it obvious that it's dangerous and stupid, but instead of engaging it in a mature manner I shall not attempt it at all".
 
Send the DB a link to this thread. Maybe he'll figure out that he's the DB. :thumbup

And send him a "Regretfully, you're both a danger to yourself and others, and I hope they live through the experience" card. :teeth
 
I couldn't help but notice that you said you 'had' to help him. No, you don't. You chose to. Now, you're choosing not to and that is perfectly ok.

The decision is yours and yours alone. This is what being an adult is all about. Sometimes the choices we make hurt peoples feelings. So be it.

As others have stated - you can't lead an ignorant horse to water and you sure as hell can't make 'em drink.

People will hang onto others they admire and want to emulate. That means this guy thinks you're someone to look up to. That's a good thing. The bad thing is that sometimes folks assume that people who are good at what they do want to have people idolizing them and clinging along, interrupting or getting involved with their lives as unasked for friends, asking for attention and otherwise being a pain in the ass. I have a zero tolerance policy for that kind of crap. I choose my friends carefully and vet them too. Especially my motorcycle riding friends. You may consider doing the same.
 
islemann said:
I couldn't help but notice that you said you 'had' to help him. No, you don't. You chose to. Now, you're choosing not to and that is perfectly ok.

The decision is yours and yours alone. This is what being an adult is all about. Sometimes the choices we make hurt peoples feelings. So be it.

As others have stated - you can't lead an ignorant horse to water and you sure as hell can't make 'em drink.

People will hang onto others they admire and want to emulate. That means this guy thinks you're someone to look up to. That's a good thing. The bad thing is that sometimes folks assume that people who are good at what they do want to have people idolizing them and clinging along, interrupting or getting involved with their lives as unasked for friends, asking for attention and otherwise being a pain in the ass. I have a zero tolerance policy for that kind of crap. I choose my friends carefully and vet them too. Especially my motorcycle riding friends. You may consider doing the same.
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Years ago, I had a neighbor I tried to tuck under my wing. He had years of experience riding (according to him) but had never been in the twisties. He wanted to go on a group ride and "drag knee". :( I told him to go slow, get used to the road and relax on that knee dragging idea. He tried it anyway and totaled his bike. When he bought the Gixxer 750 to replace it, I distanced my self from the dude. He had a few get off's that were minor, but I never tried to ride with him again...
 
islemann said:
I couldn't help but notice that you said you 'had' to help him. No, you don't. You chose to. Now, you're choosing not to and that is perfectly ok.

The decision is yours and yours alone. This is what being an adult is all about. Sometimes the choices we make hurt peoples feelings. So be it.

As others have stated - you can't lead an ignorant horse to water and you sure as hell can't make 'em drink.

People will hang onto others they admire and want to emulate. That means this guy thinks you're someone to look up to. That's a good thing. The bad thing is that sometimes folks assume that people who are good at what they do want to have people idolizing them and clinging along, interrupting or getting involved with their lives as unasked for friends, asking for attention and otherwise being a pain in the ass. I have a zero tolerance policy for that kind of crap. I choose my friends carefully and vet them too. Especially my motorcycle riding friends. You may consider doing the same.
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tale of two squidies? sorry,'byss:laughing
 
DReg350 said:
I once severed a relationship with a neighbor. I said "Look, you and I got along great before we ever met. Let's go back to communicating as frequently as we did then." He had to think about it for a minute. :laughing
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haha this has recently happened to me. guy moves into the hood, comes over introduces himself, blah blah blah. turns out to be a total, no jobbing douche living off his girlfriends parents (the parents rental house, and now no income for them, but it's their own fault for allowing it), smiling all the while while trying to scam you for whatever he can get. I quit talking to him a while back, but he's moved on to the other folks in the hood. what a piece of shite he is, no redeeming qualities at all. He's even gotten fatter since he moved in.

As far as the turd on the busa....I see a newb with a problem, like a rusted chain or some such, I'll tell them, then I write them off. In the immortal words of Brodie: None of my fucking concern. Just because someone rides a motorcycle doesn't mean anything to me. I drive a car, you think I'm going to mention to someone with bald tires on their car that it's dangerous, and that they're not only risking their lives but those around them, and blah blah blah.. people like them don't care, why waste your breath.
 
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back away from the squid...very slowly!

or just start riding away as fast as you can and maybe he'll give chase and it'll take care of itself:teeth
 
Personally, I'm willing to help people any time I can. But when it becomes obvious they're not willing to learn, or invest any sort of effort into improving their riding/wrenching skills, or help themselves, then I am done. There are far too many people who want help and are eager to learn. Those are the ones worth making the effort for.
The idiot with the 'Busa will get himself resolved one way or another... but it's not something you need to worry about. Walk away.
Personally, I'd be telling him why... you can always try to plant a seed as you're writing him off.

Also, good on you for trying to help... and I hope that you will try to help out others, and just choose more wisely! :)
 
Gixxergirl1000 said:
Personally, I'm willing to help people any time I can. But when it becomes obvious they're not willing to learn, or invest any sort of effort into improving their riding/wrenching skills, or help themselves, then I am done. There are far too many people who want help and are eager to learn. Those are the ones worth making the effort for.
The idiot with the 'Busa will get himself resolved one way or another... but it's not something you need to worry about. Walk away.
Personally, I'd be telling him why... you can always try to plant a seed as you're writing him off.

Also, good on you for trying to help... and I hope that you will try to help out others, and just choose more wisely! :)
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You can give a man a fish and he eats for the day, you teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime...:afm199
 
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