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what's sexy?

At 74 waking up next to the woman I loved for over 47 years is sexy. Life is good.

Almost 50 years ago
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And she still like to go riding with me.
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ST Guy said:
Holeshot: Thank you. I still remember her all the time. She was a joy.

And if you ever come to my home, I’ll show you a short video I took of her laughing and being completely charming. It’s my favorite.
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I'll get down your way once I finishing closing on my latest deal. I'll tell you all about when we get together!
 
A lot of good stories in this thread. Glad this thread was revived.

I like hearing of all of y'all that are still with the same partner or had one that passed.

One of my friends I hang out with to watch sports, he's 85 (He's old Joe, I'm black Joe). He didn't tell me which year his wife died but he still has the ring on his finger. He had a long beautiful relationship with his wife. Been together before I existed.

Makes me think on my past. I have a quite a few stories my little sister puts in a category she calls "strange girls in dark places." but my longest relationship has only been 6 years.
 
Relationships have always been bridges for me, but when in them, they felt like solid ground. Only looking in arrears was a I (later) able to see them for what they were: bridges to the next one, which have almost always been better. The lessons learned in the expired relationships (they don't "fail", but expire) have helped on each subsequent one. I can't look back on previous friends and girlfriends and regret much of anything cause it's gotten me to where I'm at now. 16 years together, a total of 5 fights ever (if that), and always excited to see her. The secret seems to be, we've done things that work for us and make the most of the time together. Last summer, coming back from Clearlake on highway 20 (to I5), I was in "there's no cell coverage" mode...people can't call us in and we're in a fast car. She was fully encouraging it; passing everyone everywhere and hauling through for the 30 miles or so to the highway. We still laugh about how gnarly the drive was and glad we never saw anyone on that road again....and she was all about it.

Eventually, if you keep trying, the right person at the right time comes along....and it changes a (single) guy.
 
Holeshot said:
Relationships have always been bridges for me, but when in them, they felt like solid ground. Only looking in arrears was a I (later) able to see them for what they were: bridges to the next one, which have almost always been better. The lessons learned in the expired relationships (they don't "fail", but expire) have helped on each subsequent one. I can't look back on previous friends and girlfriends and regret much of anything cause it's gotten me to where I'm at now. 16 years together, a total of 5 fights ever (if that), and always excited to see her. The secret seems to be, we've done things that work for us and make the most of the time together. Last summer, coming back from Clearlake on highway 20 (to I5), I was in "there's no cell coverage" mode...people can't call us in and we're in a fast car. She was fully encouraging it; passing everyone everywhere and hauling through for the 30 miles or so to the highway. We still laugh about how gnarly the drive was and glad we never saw anyone on that road again....and she was all about it.

Eventually, if you keep trying, the right person at the right time comes along....and it changes a (single) guy.
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Glad you're still with her, Berto, she seemed like a keeper when I met her. (y)
 
Thanks Brett. I mean, she's chained up, but 16 years is 16 years, right?
 
Kevshd said:
Confidence and a sense of humor.
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that’s so great to say. gotta admit though, it didn’t start anything like that for me. i liked the way he walked. something about it. but he dressed like - not a total slob, but pretty close. baggy. careless. we met. talked. i liked him. knew he was a swimmer, and went to one of his swim meets. i was looking all over for him, and my girlfriend says ‘there he is’, and points him out. my jaw dropped. you’ve got to be fucking kidding me. haven’t let him out of my sight ever since. :laughing
 
This thread needs more pics. :)

My wife showing off a recent sewing project. Not bad for 74.

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I was thinking about this. I find it very attractive when a human has good things to say about other people or their mate. All you guys here who have raved about your love for your partners are lovely.
 
...and friends. Some people dish on their friends (even) in front of them, constantly. I don't get it. Jokes, yeah. But actually trying to take them down notches...jealousy in motion or something.
 
Kevshd said:
Confidence and a sense of humor.
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So much of this. A woman can have a lot of physical stuff going on that isn't ideal, but if she seems to know what she wants, doesn't take shit too seriously, and doesn't seem to need any validation from others, invoke my homage to the ironwood tree.
 
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