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How do you tell your partner that their presents suck

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Title says it all. I constantly give awesome presents that Erin always wants. Last year it was an iPad and this year it was All-Clad saucepans. These past two years have sucked ass for me. I got clothing from her both times, clothing I don't wear but instead clothing she would like to see me in. I feel like my mom is buying me presents and now I just don't even look forward to gifts from Erin. How do I break it to her that I am not pleased with her gifts without sounding like an asshole.

I gave her a list and no were on it did it say clothing.

My list went something like this:

1. Xbox
2. Playstation
3. Accordion
4. Martial Arts Gear
5. Motorcycle related stuff

In the past she has been spot on. Saved my ass with glove liners and warm socks. Bought me my first month of martial arts that I still attend. Recently its been poop gifts.
 
:laughing The honeymoon's over pal :twofinger

LMAO, I got just what I asked for (and then some) which wan't a lot. I went a little overboard but that's on me.
 
I got a crappy wafflemaker. If you gave her a list theres nothing more you can do without hurting her feelings.
 
I like giving gifts better than receiving them. :dunno

I usually buy whatever I want or need, so the only stuff left is very expensive and I don't ask anyone else for that stuff.

I suppose if you wanted to make a point, leave it folded in the box in the bottom of your closet where she can see it. Ask her if she has a gift receipt? G
 
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"this is really cool stuff - Thank You !. Honestly though, I don't think I'll ever use it... do you still have the receipt ? you could return it and get something that you can use :thumbup "
 
Drop bigger hints, like Grand Canyon size, and plenty early. It's a generalization, but most women LISTEN better than men to ordinary conversation (we're waiting for keywords like ice cream, penis, sure you can stay home, etc etc). But try not to be consumed with the sentiment. I outgifted Ms. BA in the same way but realized I needed to have some ideas for her....I was more original but that's just the way it is.
 
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Maybe she's tired of you wearing the same clothes. When was the last time you bought new underwear? Are you still dressing like you did when you were a teenager? Women don't just randomly do shit, there's a reason behind those gifts, you need to figure it out.
 
revnort said:
I like giving gifts better than receiving them. :dunno

I usually buy whatever I want or need, so the only stuff left is very expensive and I don't ask anyone else for that stuff.

I suppose if you wanted to make a point, leave it folded in the box in the bottom of your closet where she can see it. Ask her if she has a gift receipt? G
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+1 all those items were on a waiting list in hopes she would buy them. Otherwise I would have already gotten all that stuff for me.
 
rsrider said:
Maybe she's tired of you wearing the same clothes. When was the last time you bought new underwear? Are you still dressing like you did when you were a teenager? Women don't just randomly do shit, there's a reason behind those gifts, you need to figure it out.
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hmmm.... you have a good point
 
In all seriousness, why not just skip the gifts altogether with the SO and just plan a trip together instead as a joint xmas present? Kind of takes the pressure off both of you, and you both get to go somewhere cool.
 
Yeah if you gave a list and she ignored it you're just going to have a fight.

She probably has better taste in clothes and wants you to dress nicer but has no idea how to tell you that, hence she gifts clothes.

My advice is to:

1) wear the nice clothes the nice girl bought you
2) buy your own video games
3) shut the fuck up
 
she is a woman.. it's in her nature to try to change you. she just held back for a little while. you are screwed.
 
revnort said:
In all seriousness, why not just skip the gifts altogether with the SO and just plan a trip together instead as a joint xmas present? Kind of takes the pressure off both of you, and you both get to go somewhere cool.
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Best idea yet. Take it out of her hands and you'll both win. Unless she only wants to go to crappy places. Then you're back to losing.
 
Set up a wish list on Amazon and tell her about it when she asks what you'd like. That way she can choose from specific items.
 
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