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can you stay in a sexless relationship/marriage..?

Ahhh....the same old problem. Women give sex for love and men give love for sex. Someone stopped giving and the other resents it. Tough place to be for all involved.

I believe this problem has been around as long as humans have been on the planet. They'll either work it out or they won't.

Back to the original question, would I stay in a sexless marriage? Yes, for a while to try to work things out. If things can't be worked out, if parties are too angry at each other to agree they love each other and really want to try and improve things then things won't get better and resentment will grow, on both sides.
 
For a relationship to work, everybody in it needs to have their needs met. If she needs to have no sex, and the reasons can't be fixed, then he should have the option to get his needs met elsewhere... or call the whole thing off.

I've been in sexless long-term relationships and I can tell you, it is toxic as hell. This is why I do not date at all, it's a public service. But I did not abruptly change my mind on the subject-- I have always been that way. So I can't guess as to her reasons for changing.

It could be physical, like hormones, or it could be stress-related.

Or the relationship may already be down the tubes and she just doesn't like him that much anymore.
 
Gnarly Cranium said:
For a relationship to work, everybody in it needs to have their needs met. If she needs to have no sex, and the reasons can't be fixed, then he should have the option to get his needs met elsewhere... or call the whole thing off.

I've been in sexless long-term relationships and I can tell you, it is toxic as hell. This is why I do not date at all, it's a public service. But I did not abruptly change my mind on the subject-- I have always been that way. So I can't guess as to her reasons for changing.

It could be physical, like hormones, or it could be stress-related.

Or the relationship may already be down the tubes and she just doesn't like him that much anymore.
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please elaborate on this no dating rule. What do you do just stay celibate?
 
so wait, you don't want to have sex? so you don't date? that's actually a pretty good idea! although, i'm not sure why you wouldnt wanna get laid.
 
I see six well thought out and compassionate responses in this thread

I also see a load of garbage
 
well gosh Wendy, don't you know the only reason a women stops wanting to have sex with her husband is bc she's some kind of whore and giving it up on the side. I thought everyone knew that...you should be more understanding of the guy's need to justify extramarital sex, he's really suffering you know
 
Idontdotrix said:
well gosh Wendy, don't you know the only reason a women stops wanting to have sex with her husband is bc she's some kind of whore and giving it up on the side. I thought everyone knew that...you should be more understanding of the guy's need to justify extramarital sex, he's really suffering you know
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Ok, 7 well thought out posts














:twofinger
 
God knows what her reasoning is.

Personally, I wouldn't be able to last long if someone who was able just cut me off. That's me being brutally honest. Sex0rs is one thing that differentiates this kind of relationship from all the other relationships we have. Take that away and :cry
 
;) To Bill that is

Dani, :rofl yeah, totally forgot about that. The damned whore is giving it to someone else. Wait, if she were a whore she'd be getting paid for it

So what's the term for whore who charges nothing :confused
 
sex is for procreation only. If you're not having kids, you shouldn't be having sex
































:twofinger
:later
 
As a woman who is currently unable to have sex due to my condition, I am lucky to have a man that works with me. We have been together for over 28 years, and I would never leave him, no matter what. Even if sex is not part of the picture, there is touch and more importantly, being intimate. Before I was diagnosed many years ago, I did not understand what was going on and was very frustrated. At least I tried to keep my man happy, as much as I could.

Sex is a wonderful thing, I miss it dearly, and wish I could get the treatment that could help me enjoy it again. But being low income with no health insurance, that aint gonna happen.
 
Papi-C said:
please elaborate on this no dating rule. What do you do just stay celibate?
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I just get on with my life, with my clothes mostly on. :dunno

HIglesias said:
so wait, you don't want to have sex? so you don't date? that's actually a pretty good idea! although, i'm not sure why you wouldnt wanna get laid.
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There isn't really an explanation. Maybe some weird autistic quirk or something. I used to worry about it. Now I don't bother with the headache.

It's amazing, the weight that's been lifted off my shoulders. Now I hear about other people's relationship problems and all I can think is wow, I am so glad I don't have to deal with that bullshit. I mean, I get why other people do these things, it just ain't for me.

If you're asexual you shouldn't make sexual people suffer your lifestyle, accommodations must be made. It's a sad thing, that it's unlikely we'll ever have the meaningful relationships that other people do, but it is what it is. Either fuck him, let him fuck around, or leave him the fuck alone.
 
2WheelBear said:
As a woman who is currently unable to have sex due to my condition, I am lucky to have a man that works with me. We have been together for over 28 years, and I would never leave him, no matter what. Even if sex is not part of the picture, there is touch and more importantly, being intimate. Before I was diagnosed many years ago, I did not understand what was going on and was very frustrated. At least I tried to keep my man happy, as much as I could.

Sex is a wonderful thing, I miss it dearly, and wish I could get the treatment that could help me enjoy it again. But being low income with no health insurance, that aint gonna happen.
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that's what im talking about. if you can't, then i would hope that you and your spouse know how to work through it.
i know my wife has told me, if i get into a wreck and get paralyzed, she wouldn't leave me, but to expect some other dick in her life :|. i'm still not sure how to feel about that.
 
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