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Is holding hands in public important part of a relationship..?

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So i was kinda seeing a woman for a bit...good company, fun conversations, joking around,and strolls in public places..

All good and stuff...

But one thing i hate most is holding hands when walking together...just seems so juvenile...im an earshot away and can see and hear her when talking..but when she reaches out for my hand when we walk, it just bugs me...dont see the point of holding hands..i keep my ands in my pocket when she reaches out but after awhile i find myself scootin away..

I got to a point where i cant walk next to her anymore and she picked up on it..we chatted about it and see this as a huge difference in our relationship so we parted ways..

Is holding hands such a big deal and important in a relationship..?
 
Well, it seemed to drive her away from you. Next time someone tries to hold your hand, grab her tits. That'll show her .
 
Just hold on to her butt cheeck.:p
 
If she wants to hold your hand and you don't, she'll probably see it as a sign of rejection. So yeah, it's pretty important.

Besides, if you're happy to be with her, what's the big deal? You're holding hands with a pretty girl, not shoveling shit on a hot day.
 
is it because you're embarrassed, or......?

do you have much dating experience? that's probably an important factor here, unless your previous gf's just weren't that "type"......but honestly I can't imagine many girls NOT being that "type".....
 
Started dating my wife 10 years ago...I still hold her hands today.

Perhaps the affection she seeks isn't something you can supply.
Perhaps there's another issue (commitment?) that you're not comfortable with.

Whatever it is, find out if it's a deal breaker for the relationship. She'll keep reaching, it's probably what she's used to---A guy whose willing to "protect" her or someone not embarrassed to be seen with her.

If it makes you uncomfortable to hold hands, and it makes her uncomfortable to not hold your hands, perhaps your idea of communication through affection is very different from hers. What may seem juvenile or trivial, could be the affection she needs to feel secure in the relationship.


But if she has ogreish callousy hands, then I'd walk with my hands in my pocket, too.
 
not holding her hand is the same as you still being in the market for a gf to her...your loss if she was really a cool person!
 
V4 said:
Is holding hands such a big deal and important in a relationship..?
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Yeah, pretty much.

Not to mention it will get you laid. Why would you think it's juvenile? Did you know that the fingers have the highest concentration of nerve endings in the body? Holding hands is about the sexiest thing you can do in public without making a scene.

First date with my current wife, I held her hand in the movies. Second date, I went to pick her up and within a minute we were ripping each other's clothes off. :)
 
IMHO, holding hands, and other minor public displays of affection, help keep a relationship strong, remind them you are thinking of them, and enjoying their presence.
 
V4 said:
One thing i hate most is holding hands when walking together...just seems so juvenile...im an earshot away and can see and hear her when talking..but when she reaches out for my hand when we walk, it just bugs me...dont see the point of holding hands..i keep my ands in my pocket when she reaches out but after awhile i find myself scootin away.

Is holding hands such a big deal and important in a relationship..?
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:facepalm Dude. :wtf is wrong with you? Ya blew that one.

She probably thought you were ghey. :p

TylerW said:
If she wants to hold your hand and you don't, she'll probably see it as a sign of rejection. So yeah, it's pretty important.

Besides, if you're happy to be with her, what's the big deal? You're holding hands with a pretty girl, not shoveling shit on a hot day.
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This.
 
If I'm into the girl I usually have my hand on her ass while walking. This works best if she's wearing pants with pockets in the back and i couldn't care less who's looking.
If shes hot I cant keep my hands off. This can fade over time, then its time to move on to new ass.
So for me holding ass much more important than holding hands.
 
I have a pretty blonde GF with short hair. If I don't hold hands with her, along with other simple public displays of affection, all the dykes & lesbians in SF would be all over her. As it is, they devour her with their eyes, giving her the up & down as we stroll down Valencia. The guys? They're just too brow-beaten by radical feminism to even acknowledge her. Weird town we live in...
 
My wife says that when I'm holding her hand she feels secured and loved and because I hold it with a grip she knows she is on top if my mind.

Pretty much a trifecta there.
 
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