Online Dating, whats your experience?

[Kornholio]

why is that? i could never figure out why this is.

I dunno. Women just look fucking sexy as hell in knee-high boots.

 

[rebekahlynn]

I vote for BARF having a dating forum... arty

My bf is buying a bike...but I can already see that [relationship + riding w/o your partner] is very rough on a relationship

I met my girlfriend through BARF. That is the limit of my experince with online dating.

 

[Hooli]

A/S/L?

 

[Eldritch]

I vote for BARF having a dating forum... arty

My bf is buying a bike...but I can already see that [relationship + riding w/o your partner] is very rough on a relationship

It has been discussed many times over the years and has generally been decided that it would not be worth the drama that all 12 Females of BARF getting gang legumped by 4,000, "so ronery," active OTHERS would bring to the table.

 

[aprilinfrance]

Can you blame them for being jaded? Really? I've seen female friend's use it and they get bombarded daily with the "DTF?" emails. It's crazy.

Or the one sentence "Waz up?" messages that absolutely have no sense of english.

Meh. Tried it. Met plenty, none really lasted, but then, most of the ones I meet offline don't last long either. Maybe I'm just jaded. Seems a hell of a lot harder to get a date online than in person. Lot easier to hold a conversation. And about 99.9% of the chicks on there are stuck up hypocrites. Especially hate the ones who have something like "OMG guys are such assholes if you're gonna take the time to favorite me/message me say more than just 'hi'!!!" on their profiles...then they message YOU and just go "Hi ".

Like I said, I'll stick with offline for the most part...

Can you blame us? I get messages of just hi. To me that's like saying you didn't read my profile. I give credit to guys who at least write something that is in my profile, even if their entire message is only 3 or 4 sentences long.



OP, yes I've tried online dating and have used it over the course of my dating life. Like another poster said, you have dry periods and then boom, you get bombarded with several messages. Dating in general can be tiring, but I've meet some really interesting people and some really not so interesting people in the time I've used the services. Would I use it again? Sure. I'm currently seeing someone who I met through a dating website right now and have been for sometime now. The thing is though, online dating has also allowed men and women to be pickier. So, just bear that in mind.

 

[F4iChic]

I dunno. Women just look fucking sexy as hell in knee-high boots.

well, that would be me today then arty

provided of course you don't look any higher than the boots

laundry, gottit

 

[NorCalAthlete]

Can you blame us? I get messages of just hi. To me that's like saying you didn't read my profile. I give credit to guys who at least write something that is in my profile, even if their entire message is only 3 or 4 sentences long.

Yes. Yes I can blame you. If you're going to demand an effort be made to win your attention, you better make the same damn effort to me.

 

[aprilinfrance]

Yes. Yes I can blame you. If you're going to demand an effort be made to win your attention, you better make the same damn effort to me.

My personal rule of thumb is reply if they take the time and actually start a topic to discuss, not hey how's the weather going.

Sorry but I'm not inclined to give a guy my number in person if they only say hi

 

[Gixxergirl1000]

I vote for BARF having a dating forum... arty

My bf is buying a bike...but I can already see that [relationship + riding w/o your partner] is very rough on a relationship

Not really- many of the guys I ride with are married, their wives don't ride at all, and they've got great relationships. Generally it's good to have some separate interests... he goes riding, she gets a pedicure, or goes to a henparty with her girlfriends... or, more usually, s cleaning the house while he's not there getting in the way...
For me, riding and racing is such a huge part of my life that a guy who rides is pretty much the only sort who's going to get it. Plus, the last couple of relationships I've had were with guys who rode as much as I did, and it was fantastic being able to share that with them.

Yes. Yes I can blame you. If you're going to demand an effort be made to win your attention, you better make the same damn effort to me.

Yep, fair is fair.

 

[two wheel tramp]

Connie, luckily enough I've attracted moto riding guys so far with my OKStupid profile.

 

[NorCalAthlete]

My personal rule of thumb is reply if they take the time and actually start a topic to discuss, not hey how's the weather going.

Sorry but I'm not inclined to give a guy my number in person if they only say hi

I didn't say give out your number for saying hi. I don't have a problem with the discriminating standards, just the hypocrisy.

 

[rebekahlynn]

haha, well then it's just rough for my relationship!

Not really- many of the guys I ride with are married, their wives don't ride at all, and they've got great relationships. Generally it's good to have some separate interests... he goes riding, she gets a pedicure, or goes to a henparty with her girlfriends... or, more usually, s cleaning the house while he's not there getting in the way...
For me, riding and racing is such a huge part of my life that a guy who rides is pretty much the only sort who's going to get it. Plus, the last couple of relationships I've had were with guys who rode as much as I did, and it was fantastic being able to share that with them.

 

[Momo-san]

Yes, I've tried it. I go through this pattern of thinking it would be a good idea to give it another go, and then get annoyed with the whole process after a couple of weeks and hide my profile for a month or two. I only use the freebie sites because paying Match.com for this BS just makes me mad

So, yeah, I've been on a handful of online-arranged dates. Fortunately, they have all been very pleasant, non-creepy experiences. I have only had one guy lie about his height...Don't lie to a girl that's 5'11", maybe you can fool the short chicks, but I'm gonna know!

IDK, I figure it's good dating practice but the likelihood of meeting someone online that's going to float your boat is pretty low. After all, that first date is really just a pre-date...that's the big disadvantage to all of this. If you meet in person, you already have an idea of whether there is some kind of chemistry. So, after awhile, these online dates just feel like a waste of time. Meh, it's okay. Good luck!

 

[HappyHighwayman]

I've had mostly positive experiences. Basically the same experiences as non-online dating. It's more of a shotgun approach than a targeted one. It's really just for meeting people and getting dates until you hit a good person.

OK Cupid is good because at leas it's free.

 

[flying_hun]

IDK, I figure it's good dating practice but the likelihood of meeting someone online that's going to float your boat is pretty low.

I did. I'm not sure why the hit rate would be any higher meeting people "the old fashioned way". Like I said earlier, it helps to know who you are, and what the characteristics are of the sort of person you think you'd like to meet, then focus both your profile and your search with that in mind.

As for "first dates", those were always for coffee for a finite period (no more than an hour). That way if things go badly, you're out of there quickly without ruining an evening. If things go well, you can make further arrangements.

Maybe I hit the lottery, but some of you make it sound far more difficult than I found it. It takes time and effort, just like so many things in life.

 

[KooLaid]

Of course a few weeks go by and I'm getting no replies to my emails. Fucking 5'6 doesnt help despite the girls I'm messaging are 5'-5'5....

Why women prefer tall guys in one word: HEELS

They want to be able to wear nice heels and not stand taller or even tower over their guy.

I have heard this once or twice while dating someone or in the process of trying to date someone

 

[Idontdotrix]

It has been discussed many times over the years and has generally been decided that it would not be worth the drama that all 12 Females of BARF getting gang legumped by 4,000, "so ronery," active OTHERS would bring to the table.

yeah I can see the potential problem.

how about a Hook A Rider Up? thread- ppl could post who they are, what they are like, what they are looking for- and NO responses permitted- all "I'm interested" or ""Oh have I got a friend for you!" messages must be delivered by PM.

whatchoothink?

 

[Eldritch]

5'11"

Still little.

yeah I can see the potential problem.

how about a Hook A Rider Up? thread- ppl could post who they are, what they are like, what they are looking for- and NO responses permitted- all "I'm interested" or ""Oh have I got a friend for you!" messages must be delivered by PM.

whatchoothink?

I think it would promote drama and not really serve BARF's primary service role, but that is certainly a better idea than an open forum section.

 

[Momo-san]

 

[Idontdotrix]

E, like ANYTHING in the KS promotes BARF's primary purpose?

might fill and need a be a less drama avenue to consider since no one would be able to publicly respond to any other member's post.