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Online Dating, whats your experience?

Idontdotrix said:
yeah I can see the potential problem.

how about a Hook A Rider Up? thread- ppl could post who they are, what they are like, what they are looking for- and NO responses permitted- all "I'm interested" or ""Oh have I got a friend for you!" messages must be delivered by PM.

whatchoothink?
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Maybe a "send a gift" option like you see sometimes on some dating sites. Instead of a bullshit picture of a flower, maybe amazon gift cards or something lol.
 
Eldritch said:
I think it would promote drama and not really serve BARF's primary service role, but that is certainly a better idea than an open forum section. :thumbup
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I think it's a great fit for BARF, since you want biker-friendly dates, it's mostly a regional forum, and the demographic fits. And what's wrong with a little drama? :)
 
Tried online dating off and on (fun at first then tired, take a break, return) and met some cool girls, and some not-so-cool girls. So really, online dating is no different than bumping into someone offline. You might find a spark or you might not. IMHO reading someone's profile (text on a screen) is worthless, you must meet in person to see what's what.

Only one real horror story so far: Craziest one was a girl who kept sending messages over and over, I was busy and couldn't meet for a few days. Finally meet, go get some food except she goes outside the restaurant and talks on her cell phone for 15 minutes. Hmmm. We leave afterwards, she says she wants me to type in an address into my GPS so I can drive her to go look at someone's house, but not go inside. :wtf

I said "uhhhh, no this silliness is over" and she got even more crazy weird after that, I made it to about a mile from her house before I flew off the handle, pulled over to the side of the road and said "get out, walk home." :rofl

(actually I kept looking around for a camera crew, thinking it might be one of those prank shows).
 
Zerox said:
Tried online dating off and on (fun at first then tired, take a break, return) and met some cool girls, and some not-so-cool girls. So really, online dating is no different than bumping into someone offline. You might find a spark or you might not. IMHO reading someone's profile (text on a screen) is worthless, you must meet in person to see what's what.

Only one real horror story so far: Craziest one was a girl who kept sending messages over and over, I was busy and couldn't meet for a few days. Finally meet, go get some food except she goes outside the restaurant and talks on her cell phone for 15 minutes. Hmmm. We leave afterwards, she says she wants me to type in an address into my GPS so I can drive her to go look at someone's house, but not go inside. :wtf

I said "uhhhh, no this silliness is over" and she got even more crazy weird after that, I made it to about a mile from her house before I flew off the handle, pulled over to the side of the road and said "get out, walk home." :rofl

(actually I kept looking around for a camera crew, thinking it might be one of those prank shows).
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All my match profile says is "let's cut the shit and meet in person." I got a reply from a guy whose profile said "I am more fun than a computer." It took two emails and about two weeks for us to meet in person. I knew during our first phone conversation that I liked him because we had a great rapport instantly. I hate guys that want to send a million messages. If I wanted a pen pal, I would have signed up for a letter writing site... :rolleyes
 
Meeting people who are not the people in the bio. People trying desperately to live up to their bio. Realizing my bio may be inaccurate.

Fug it go to bar.
 
sfcootz said:
All my match profile says is "let's cut the shit and meet in person." I got a reply from a guy whose profile said "I am more fun than a computer." It took two emails and about two weeks for us to meet in person. I knew during our first phone conversation that I liked him because we had a great rapport instantly. I hate guys that want to send a million messages. If I wanted a pen pal, I would have signed up for a letter writing site... :rolleyes
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Man I was pissed after meeting this one girl. I always make it a point to chat with them for a few minutes before setting up the aforementioned "1 hour date" at a coffee shop. This girl was unavailable for 2 weeks due to being out of town on a business and personal trip, but she kept in good contact via email/sms. Finally we ended up meeting and she was quiet, boring, non-responsive. I'm not sure if it's because I showed up with a beard when my profile photos are clean shaven.

It just seems like a waste of time and effort that we probably could have sorted out with a phone call.

One girl I had over for a dinner date where I made thai food was giving me ZERO signs of flirtatiousness etc, I tried making some mild body contact etc, nothing. Finally I just sent her an email after asking "what's up with us" and she basically told me she wasn't interested in anything romantic but wanted to be friends and we stayed friends.
 
HappyHighwayman said:
Man I was pissed after meeting this one girl. I always make it a point to chat with them for a few minutes before setting up the aforementioned "1 hour date" at a coffee shop. This girl was unavailable for 2 weeks due to being out of town on a business and personal trip, but she kept in good contact via email/sms. Finally we ended up meeting and she was quiet, boring, non-responsive. I'm not sure if it's because I showed up with a beard when my profile photos are clean shaven.

It just seems like a waste of time and effort that we probably could have sorted out with a phone call.

One girl I had over for a dinner date where I made thai food was giving me ZERO signs of flirtatiousness etc, I tried making some mild body contact etc, nothing. Finally I just sent her an email after asking "what's up with us" and she basically told me she wasn't interested in anything romantic but wanted to be friends and we stayed friends.
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Yeah, the phone conversation was fantastic because it made it clear we'd have plenty to talk about during the date. We followed it up with some serious flirting in person and a nice smooch (okay, several) at the end and tentative plans to go :ride this weekend. I sent a text the next day saying "Thanks for the date" and that's been it. I'm looking forward to seeing him again. It's been easy and low maintenance, absolutely my favorite online dating experience so far. :)
 
postcholo said:
jimmy, you got to lay off the jersey shore, dude
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bro,its too late,i bought a case of muscle milk last week...:cry

Pro tip: there is such a thing as trying too hard and for some people, being themselves actually backfires....
 
1: go to the bar
2: be awesome
3: ?????
4: stick it in her pooper
 
Wormwood said:
Meeting people who are not the people in the bio. People trying desperately to live up to their bio. Realizing my bio may be inaccurate.

Fug it go to bar.
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I LOVE 3 year old photos and when you meet you cant help but go :wtf

I like the "I'm more fun than a computer" line :laughing Might just add that.

I do find both parties can be gnarly picky and stick to a strict criteria. I email regardless. Tuesdays date was looking for someone 5'10 despite her being 5'4. I emailed, talked, met and clicked. I jokingly called her out that she was looking for a 5'10 guy and I was stoked she responded and agreed to go out, she got flustered :laughing

No pen pals, I hate the tons of emails. 2-3 emails and lets meet or talk on the phone. My sarcasm comes across as arrogant and asshole-ish in email and at nearly 30 years old I can't stuff an email full of smiley faces and "hahaah"s.
 
basically OP, I'm going to need you to start being a lot more me and a lot less you. :3
 
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