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Post / Chat whores post here (2025)

I mean it's early.

Also, hotel coffee machines with the 3" by 3" square holder for a coffee packet, are, crap. Can't believe a regular filter machine with the glass bulb would be better for two purposes
 
I've drank a lot of that kind of coffee and I can confirm it's never good, but it does contain caffeine so the job gets done :laughing
 
Kurosaki said:
What bothers me most is, I never asked for an apology because I don't want one or need it.

Her reasoning is he never apologized because I said I didn't want an apology. So, my superintelligent best friend dumbed it down to a douchebag mentally little man that can't say he's sorry? ugh

Correct me if I'm wrong, if you've wronged someone in anyway, you apologize for it. It doesn't matter who started it or did what. Apologies are for you recognizing you did wrong. Forgiveness, that is for you, whether the person accepts it or not.
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It sounds like you absolutely expect an apology. And it sounds like you are hoping he will do this and mad that he hasn't. The thing is, this mentally will destroy you. I have been where you are and my friend never apologized and it bothered me for a long time. Eventually I realized that what was important to me was not to him. Our friendship. And when I let it go, I was a much better and happier person.

And when I say let it go, I mean I let go my need and desire for an apology or any sort of attempt on his end to be a good friend. We still talk. I still consider him a friend. But I don't make the effort I used to, and I don't care at all if he does (because I know he won't).

Just let that shit go. Reach out to your friend and reconcile that relationship. Forget about the douchebag boyfriend. Maybe tell him he got his one free shot, next one will cost him double. Then move on, with or without your best friend.
 
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Well that was interesting, ran to grab my final paycheck from UPS, clutch on the KTM has been being weird but not weird enough to worry me, of course today it got markedly worse as I was getting near UPS and the bike stalled as I parked it with no pressure in the clutch level. Hmm. Turns out the clutch fluid had been attempting to impersonate an auto oiler and it was slowly leaking from the slave and since the sight glass on the master cylinder is old and dirty, I hadn't noticed it had run dry. Good thing there is an O'Reilly a block away and that the internet told me ATF fluid will do in a pinch if there isn't Magura blood available. Got enough pressure back to limp home. Now to go shopping for parts.
 
Guten Morgan Oder gluten tag!
I have yet to find a CA Gewurtztraminer or Reisling that isn’t too sweet.

I’m at Kaiser dealing with mom stuff. I believe 2025 will be the year of mom.
 
Brokenlink said:
It sounds like you absolutely expect an apology. And it sounds like you are hoping he will do this and mad that he hasn't. The thing is, this mentally will destroy you. I have been where you are and my friend never apologized and it bothered me for a long time. Eventually I realized that what was important to me was not to him. Our friendship. And when I let it go, I was a much better and happier person.

And when I say let it go, I mean I let go my need and desire for an apology or any sort of attempt on his end to be a good friend. We still talk. I still consider him a friend. But I don't make the effort I used to, and I don't care at all if he does (because I know he won't).

Just let that shit go. Reach out to your friend and reconcile that relationship. Forget about the douchebag boyfriend. Maybe tell him he got his one free shot, next one will cost him double. Then move on, with or without your best friend.
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Mike, I appreciate your thought on this. I really do. But on one point, you are wrong. I am not expecting an apology. The fact he didn't even try knowing he was 100% wrong speaks to his character. Maybe he didn't think he was wrong, don't know, I don't have that kinda mindset to convince myself my mistakes weren't my fault. I'm not saying that to lie to myself. He's the same type of personality as my brother. Narcissistic, selfish, seemingly incapable of learning from mistakes, etc etc. Every girlfriend my brother has had (that I know about) has regretted dating him. Eventually, I'm pretty sure my friend will too. I knew it early in their relationship and every time he did something that was a huge red flag, I just gave my opinion but always qualified it with I'm your friend, I'm not your mother and I'm not trying to tell you what to do. Just giving my observation. You're an adult and will do what you do regardless of what I say. This is what happened, this is what I think.

If I didn't say it or you missed it, there is no reaching out to my friend to reconcile this. Literally. You don't think I haven't tried instead of just rambling about the problem to people instead of doing something about it? I'm blocked from all ways of contact. It just really sucks to see someone close enough to me I'd help bury a dead body with no questions asked in a toxic relationship and defend it like it's a good thing for them. Outside of this particular instance, it's not uncommon to want your friends and/or family to be in a relationship with someone that respects them and treats them right, no?

I apologize for bothering y'all with this issue. If I didn't trust the post whores with my baggage, I would have just said nothing. But I'm only human, sometimes we rant about things.
 
In more randomness/upbeat, I ran into an ex of mine on my way back from the grocery store.

It was incredibly awkward. I do my best to not do those generic platitudes with anybody but I couldn't help myself. There was no bad blood, we just stopped dating.

When we walked away I was thinking "What the fuck did you say? Who are you?" :laughing
 
Kurosaki said:
Mike, I appreciate your thought on this. I really do. But on one point, you are wrong. I am not expecting an apology. The fact he didn't even try knowing he was 100% wrong speaks to his character. Maybe he didn't think he was wrong, don't know, I don't have that kinda mindset to convince myself my mistakes weren't my fault. I'm not saying that to lie to myself. He's the same type of personality as my brother. Narcissistic, selfish, seemingly incapable of learning from mistakes, etc etc. Every girlfriend my brother has had (that I know about) has regretted dating him. Eventually, I'm pretty sure my friend will too. I knew it early in their relationship and every time he did something that was a huge red flag, I just gave my opinion but always qualified it with I'm your friend, I'm not your mother and I'm not trying to tell you what to do. Just giving my observation. You're an adult and will do what you do regardless of what I say. This is what happened, this is what I think.

If I didn't say it or you missed it, there is no reaching out to my friend to reconcile this. Literally. You don't think I haven't tried instead of just rambling about the problem to people instead of doing something about it? I'm blocked from all ways of contact. It just really sucks to see someone close enough to me I'd help bury a dead body with no questions asked in a toxic relationship and defend it like it's a good thing for them. Outside of this particular instance, it's not uncommon to want your friends and/or family to be in a relationship with someone that respects them and treats them right, no?

I apologize for bothering y'all with this issue. If I didn't trust the post whores with my baggage, I would have just said nothing. But I'm only human, sometimes we rant about things.
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Yeah I did not know those two simple pieces. Sorry man.
 
Kurosexi, that entire situation is messed up. I remember when it happened and I’m sorry it never really resolved.
 
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