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She cannot climax under any circumstances

sounds like it's you man, try going to the gym :D you might be over doing it a bit and she is just naive or shy or one of those girly girls that doesn't know herself much yet (these are hard breeds to accomplish) telling you she's never had one to be nice.. I would play cat n mouse with this one, just go off and do your own thing for awhile or enjoy what ya got.. That's me tho dude, GL
 
also you have to mentality stimulate girls, they really are not just pieces of meat -- get deep with her, try that .. I don't know what kind of real road block you are with her, but take a fresh gulp of air and start a little fresh .. give her a little time, be wanted, go out and have fun with a newer 'spirited' you (be yourself tho man, and be a MAN, be hunter male if it's not too far fetched)

try the cube on her and get a little deep [youtube]y9H7o1_8nSY[/youtube]
 
You're doomed, you've now got her worried about it and she'll NEVER relax and get any closer.
 
Ecstasy and pot, get her out of her head. Once she lets go one time she will not lock back up.
 
You know, the thing about a woman's orgasm is that it doesn't usually have punctuation like it does for guys-- no obvious physical discharge, nothing to say DING! IT'S DONE!

Some women go for years, or even their whole lives, never really understanding what an orgasm is or whether or not they've had one. Maybe she actually has and just doesn't realize it. Who knows.

The important thing is that she enjoys herself. She needs to take the pressure off, ease up mentally with the expectations or insecurities and just let it go. If she's having a good time everything is FINE.


serazin said:
Maybe she just needs the proper atmosphere.. :laughing
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Thanks, now I'm crying and my face hurts. :rofl
 
I've been with some women who were major squirters and others who couldn't cum even on their own. Dump her and move on because you deserve better... wait, what I am talking about?
 
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Take yourself out of this and encourage her to get help with her sexual health.

Tough situation though...

You really have to be willing to put in the work and patience. If you can't fulfill yourself, it doesn't look good...
 
Gnarly Cranium said:
You know, the thing about a woman's orgasm is that it doesn't usually have punctuation like it does for guys-- no obvious physical discharge, nothing to say DING! IT'S DONE!

Some women go for years, or even their whole lives, never really understanding what an orgasm is or whether or not they've had one. Maybe she actually has and just doesn't realize it. Who knows.

The important thing is that she enjoys herself. She needs to take the pressure off, ease up mentally with the expectations or insecurities and just let it go. If she's having a good time everything is FINE.
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Really?! I can imagine someone who has never had an orgasm questioning...but, once you actually get there, I don't see how there can be any doubt. It is such a distinctive experience, such a huge feeling of release and pleasure... Ohhhhhh, that's what it is!

In other words, once you have had an orgasm, there is no question whether you have had one or not. You know.

I don't think this is simply a matter of getting her relaxed and pliable by putting on Barry White...she has not been able to do it on her own.. If you can't get your own self off, there's a problem that's deeper than just needing to smoke some pot and mellow out.
 
Kestrel said:
She's not a closet lesbian. Of course, there is plenty of attention given to all parts of her body as much as I can possibly manage with the limbs and mouth I've got. Nothing is neglected, and believe me - I'm not overly focusing on any one particular area, and skipping the others.

We've talked about it. She's never been able to achieve orgasm - either with a partner, or alone - and she has absolutely no idea what the problem may be. Sadly, it is beginning to bother her at this point, as she feels that there is something inherently wrong with her.
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She needs to get checked out medically to make sure there's no underlying health issues. She might also want to try testosterone cream. That could be an underlying issue. The creams go to work in about 10 minutes or so... that might make a real difference.

Horse said:
I feel for you man. Been in your shoes. Took it as a personal challenge to make this one girl cum, but after months of trying everything (including bringing another girl to play) no dice. We then parted ways frustrated.

Years later I started seeing her again. Funny thing is, she enjoys sex very much, and is 'extremely' good at pleasing me. This time around, just not focusing on making her cum, and just enjoying the sex. The sex is always fucking awesome. I think she tries harder to please than most girls. I still see her whenever I'm in her town.

My advice to you is just don't worry about her orgasm so much. Some girls are just built that way and nothing you can do about it. Please her with massage, and being extra loving and attentive. You stressing out over it, will just make her feel bad. If you love this girl, and she satisfies you. Stay with her, and be happy she satisfies you. I know it 'feels' selfish, you getting to cum and her not. But you shouldn't toss her aside like she is broken. As that is really selfish.

So the real question is, does she enjoy being intimate with you. Does she make you cum, and satisfy you? If so, its not a real problem, just a problem in your mind.
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This post is chock-full of really fabulous advice! :thumbup
 
Gnarly Cranium said:
You know, the thing about a woman's orgasm is that it doesn't usually have punctuation like it does for guys-- no obvious physical discharge, nothing to say DING! IT'S DONE!

Some women go for years, or even their whole lives, never really understanding what an orgasm is or whether or not they've had one. Maybe she actually has and just doesn't realize it.
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Er... no.

When a woman has an orgasm, there's fucking punctuation. Intense sensations, clear physical responses (strong muscle contractions, flushing skin, etc.) You know. Impossible to miss. If you have to ask yourself if you had one, you haven't had one. It goes DING!
 
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Gnarly Cranium said:
You know, the thing about a woman's orgasm is that it doesn't usually have punctuation like it does for guys-- no obvious physical discharge, nothing to say DING! IT'S DONE!
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Say what?

I've was once thrown across a room. Gotta watch the strong ones.

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yeah, when a woman cums, you can't miss it :)

Don't think anything is wrong with her, but it wouldn't hurt to see a Dr. and talk about.

Unfortunately, this is not going to last long. When one partner never climaxes, the relationship deteriorates pretty quickly.

Rare for a woman to never cum under any circumstances, but looks like you managed to find one.

Hope things work out, but be prepared for a rough road ahead.
 
Marlowe said:
Say what?

I've was once thrown across a room. Gotta watch the strong ones.

:laughing
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Are you thinking what I'm thinking? Bishes been lying to Gnarly!

(And I bucked a man off the bed once in the throes of a particularly strong one. Once he brushed himself off, he didn't seem to mind that much. :teeth )
 
What Janna said + does she enjoy the orgasm free sex you are having?

Is cumming a mutual goal? Don't dump her, enjoy what you have if you like her.

I got with a girl for her first time and thought she hated it, but she was just scared and speechless and I was too dumb to read the tea leaves.

Stimulate her butt with your thumb while she frigs herself. Or call in Horse. He'll make her cum and teach her oral skills.
 
nakedape said:
Stimulate her butt with your thumb while she frigs herself. Or call in Horse. He'll make her cum and teach her oral skills.
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Bad Horse
Bad Horse
Bad Horse
He’s Bad

He rides across the nation
The thoroughbred of sin
He got the application
That you just sent in

Your girlfriend needs instruction
So let the games begin
A righteous fuck, a show of force
A blowjob would be nice of course

Bad Horse
Bad Horse
Bad Horse
He’s Bad

She's saddled up.
There's no recourse.
I'll make her cum hard,
Signed, Bad Horse
 
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