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RANT: kids (parents) these days

byke said:
Think some southeast Asian cultures do this.
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This was a point of discussion in my household. It was simply culture to SWMBO. To me it was misrepresenting the facts. We met in the middle by explaining it to the Kid (once she was able to comprehend it). The Kid will still occasionally confirm if an Auntie is actually a family member. Most of the time she can figure it out herself.
 
Using Mr, Mrs, Miss or Mam used to be a sign of respect. If I haven’t been told different, I will still use those terms when addressing people I don’t know. And I’m nearly 75.

But my neighbors are all on a first name basis.
 
bobl said:
I find it irritating when saying "excuse me miss" only to hit with a nasty "I'TS MIZ!", and the "I'M NOT A MADAM, DONT CAll ME MAM!. Jesus, some people look real hard to be offended. Those were the proper respectful addresses when I was a kid. Miss if you didn't know. Mam as a gesture of respect.
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i enjoy being called ma’am. especially when there’s a ‘yes’ in front of it lol.
 
In 1974 I was gifted two moppets to raise. They already had a 'daddy', my wife struggled with how her kids should address me, fatherhood terms didn't seem quite right.

I was the one who suggested the kids just use my name, that the emotional component will follow along just fine.

Fifty years now my correct name has done just fine because the emotional lock is solid.

"What is in a name, that which we call a rose would smell just as sweet by any other name." Bill What's-his-name.
 
I call my step mother by her name but the assorted folks who provide services use Miss or Ms first name.
 
I never knew what I should call my inlaws. So, 40 years in and I've never called them anything... I just wait for them to talk to me and then I respond. :laughing
(they talk way more than me anyway)
 
Same with my in-laws who live with us. My wife calls them Lolo and Lola which means grandpa and grandma in Tagalog (even though they are her parents) so I do the same.
After 32 years of living in an Asian family situation I subscribe to the "honor your elders" cultural norm.

In the Philippines, people slightly older than you are addressed as Kuya (big brother) or Ate (big sister). This can even apply to people your own age.
It's used to be respectful.
Say for example if you're asking a stranger for directions you'd ask "Kuya/Ate where is..."
It automatically humbles you and elevates them in the conversation.
 
Pushrod said:
In 1974 I was gifted two moppets to raise. They already had a 'daddy', my wife struggled with how her kids should address me, fatherhood terms didn't seem quite right.

I was the one who suggested the kids just use my name, that the emotional component will follow along just fine.

Fifty years now my correct name has done just fine because the emotional lock is solid.

"What is in a name, that which we call a rose would smell just as sweet by any other name." Bill What's-his-name.
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Dude, way to step up. :applause
 
Abacinator said:
My step kids all call me by my first name.
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I did the same with my step mother. It was an intentional action I chose to maintain respect for my birth mother.
 
Abacinator said:
My step kids all call me by my first name.
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I tried calling my father in law sir, he said my name is just Rich, and if you call me sir again I will break your arms.
 
In Chinese, every elder is basically Uncle or Auntie, Pa or Ma, Grandpa or Grandma ... there's built in respect, affection, honor and levity simultaneously. Seems to work well.
 
Enchanter said:
I did the same with my step mother. It was an intentional action I chose to maintain respect for my birth mother.
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IDK whether or not it was intentional with them, but I never tried to replace their dad, just tried to be fatherly. My oldest stepdaughter has a strained relationship with her dad and has said I've been more of a father to her than he ever was.
 
I don't think this is a big deal. I think it's just out of date (Mister,miss, sir ma'am). If you want to be mad about this then maybe we should go back to the OG way and call our parents "Ooga boogas" with small grunts to differentiate. I also called my step parents by their first names.
 
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