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I am against the death penalty because what if we get it wrong but it's also really damned expensive to impose.

Let nature take its deadly course. We all die in the end.

In other news, our local Amazon truck driver is SUPER polite to me as a cyclist. He ended up delivering something to me after I got home from my wee ride. I caught him and thanked him for how polite and observant he was and we chatted for a few.
 
There's only one person I'm aware of that doesn't think I'm an asshole... to her... most of the time. :laughing
 
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i_am_the_koi said:
If I change who I am because I don't like myself, what does that mean for the little in my life that likes me for who I am currently? I've seen marriages end because of self realization and change. I can't jeopardize my family because I wish I was a more liked person.
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Consider the possibility that it isn’t the qualities you dislike about yourself that holds your family together. If you make a good faith change, chances are they would be supportive.
 
tzrider said:
Consider the possibility that it isn’t the qualities you dislike about yourself that holds your family together. If you make a good faith change, chances are they would be supportive.
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That's a pretty risky chance to take imo.
 
My experience with you is that you do what you say you will and can be generous to a fault.
If I were your mom my concern would be drinking and smoking but you have proven to be a dedicated papa and husband.
 
Fortunately my wife gave up driving voluntarily after she had a couple of minor parking lot accidents. She knew she had Alzheimers. And she faced it gracefully and was open to talking about it.
 
tzrider said:
Do you believe they like you because of the qualities you dislike about yourself, or in spite of them?
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It's a conversation my wife and I have had in a round about way, but that snarky fuck you don't give a fuck attitude is definitely something we have bonded about and like about each other. Is it the determining factor they keeps us together? Probably not, but is it a huge part of the koitney family? Absolutely.

Kids are 2, they like me because I can open a banana or a fruit bar wrapper. I just don't want them growing up and being handicapped in life because they emulated my dickish energy.

But if wife doesn't like the less edgy koi, I lose everything I have positive going for me just because I wanted a larger friend structure? She takes the house, kids, and herself out of the equation and that leaves me with... A less dickish attitude?

Risk/reward is skewed way hard in one direction and I've been struggling with it being worth it.

One of the tools I'm looking for from therapy is how to tare that scale lulz


Sorry for making the PW all heavy and shit y'all. there's probably a thread for this kind of convo.
 
i_am_the_koi said:
It's a conversation my wife and I have had in a round about way, but that snarky fuck you don't give a fuck attitude is definitely something we have bonded about and like about each other. Is it the determining factor they keeps us together? Probably not, but is it a huge part of the koitney family? Absolutely.

Kids are 2, they like me because I can open a banana or a fruit bar wrapper. I just don't want them growing up and being handicapped in life because they emulated my dickish energy.

But if wife doesn't like the less edgy koi, I lose everything I have positive going for me just because I wanted a larger friend structure? She takes the house, kids, and herself out of the equation and that leaves me with... A less dickish attitude?

Risk/reward is skewed way hard in one direction and I've been struggling with it being worth it.

One of the tools I'm looking for from therapy is how to tare that scale lulz


Sorry for making the PW all heavy and shit y'all. there's probably a thread for this kind of convo.
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We had one but it turned into a shit show so feel free to vent here.
 
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