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Best first date activites?

Depending on the girl

karting
concert
billard
rock climbing
cooking

Two weeks ago I went with my SO see a free symphony in SF, then we walked a bit downtown (I showed her some spots from when I worked there), muni to the beach, dinner and drinks. Good day :thumbup
 
Volcomism said:
... walk the shops...
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as you walk by Vickie Secrets so casual(off the cuff).. say "...hey, lets go in there and buy you a new bra..." its like $35 and you get laid and its alot of fun too... :thumbup panties are +10 should be sexy(i like the $12 ones), the rule is don't go over $55 ;) the cheaper -- the better chance you got ... and don't be too stingy throw in a $3 cotton thong :cool
 
First date material: It really depends. I always believe in first dates having an "escape route", nothing too tied down. Meeting up for drinks/coffee has always been great for me. You usually know in the first 10 minutes if you are into someone or not, or if they are into you. Nothing worse than getting tied down at dinner with some schmuck that talks about all the wrong things and just irritates the fuck out of you.

One of my best first dates ever was us doing a random pub crawl,...he planned it out, I was fair game. You get to learn a LOT about a stranger by Pub #4. Hahaha.... Also, if you need to ditch, it's easy to "accidently" lose someone if you're drunk, or tell someone you're not interested, you're not feeling it.....or completely the opposite, "Dude...I wanna see what you look like in the morning with your clothes next to my bed."

Great ideas:
Drinks (always lowers the inhibitions/calms the nerves)
Coffee (Kinda says, I want to be your friend first)
Taking a walk (somewhere nice, like the beach or wandering aimlessly around North Beach)
Pub Crawl (Yeah... it's fun, and guys,it'll probably get you laid too...)

Bad ideas:
Movies (Can't get to know one another)
Meeting up with your friends (this can totally backfire, esp if your friends dont' like the person)
Some destination date
Miniature golf is for kids...bleh.
Lingerie shopping..(and YES, this HAS happened to me on a first date *creepy*)


Uhh..that's all I can think of for now...
 
Go to the MOMA, light lunch at the Cafe, walk over to Yerba Buena Center and sit and talk on the grass. Walk through the MLK waterfall.

Legion of Honor is also nice...there's a great show now with Faberge, Tiffany and Lalique. Then walk around for the views of the Golden Gate. Walk to the Cliff House for drinks.
 
Lester Green said:
actually he appears to NOT be a sappy little puppy dog being manipulated by trim. Lavishing new girlfriends with gifts only makes you appear like a needy little pup.
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lester... if you got $ spend it.. do you need some?

girls only like 3 things... true :love, $, and PIIDB :sex

what the hell are you talking about??? :dunno
 
Afterburner said:
lester... if you got $ spend it.. do you need some?

girls only like 3 things... true :love, $, and PIIDB :sex

what the hell are you talking about??? :dunno
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It's not about having or not having money. And gifts aren't necessarily about money. You can seem just as needy by writing her a poem or song, or painting her a picture :laughing It's just that most guys aren't very creative, so they swipe the Visa, and it's not necessarily a good thing early on in a relationship, depending on the people involved.
 
FWIW boys, I wouldn't interpret it as neediness if a fella brought me gifts before six months in. :)
 
Lester Green said:
actually he appears to NOT be a sappy little puppy dog being manipulated by trim. Lavishing new girlfriends with gifts only makes you appear like a needy little pup.
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What exactly is "trim", and does that mean you're calling me whatever that is? :laughing Sheesh, we're not talking about proposing marriage on the second date here. Six months is a loooooong time to be in a relationship with someone who won't express their affection. If there's no gifts, there better be other ways you're showing the girl you care, and that doesn't make you a sappy needy pup.

Afterburner said:
miran..... gawd you are cheap and way less creepy than me :teeth


i guess i get laid more.... :|
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Good lord, you guys! Can we please NOT talk so much shit about my boyfriend and my sex life?? I think both are great, thankyouverymuch.:twofinger

Not all women are into money, for the record. I actually go the other way and won't date a guy with a lot of money. I'm not a fan of being bought and traded like a commodity.

For first dates though, I gotta agree - if a guy wants to buy me lingerie upon first meeting me, I'm out the door and finding the nearest cop to escort me to my car. That says serial killer or rapist or stalker, NOT romance.

If you wanna buy something for the first date to show your interest, go classic - try flowers. Its sweet and old-fashioned, and doesn't make a girl feel she needs to enter the witness protection program. ;)

If you're just trying to get laid, take her out for drinks. Honestly, it's a quick in and out procedure from there, and you don't waste a lot of time and money getting to know someone you couldn't care less about. Drinks are usually cheaper than a decent hooker anyway.
 
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