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How much does a divorce cost?

The wife and daughter had discussed it a couple of months back and daughter said that she's seen it coming for quite a while. I think...I know I was the one kidding myself that it would somehow work out but yeah, we should have told her together. She says she's actually relieved though. She's the best thing in my life by far and I do owe that to her mother. Wouldn't change that for the world.
 
RX311 said:
The wife and daughter had discussed it a couple of months back and daughter said that she's seen it coming for quite a while. I think...I know I was the one kidding myself that it would somehow work out but yeah, we should have told her together. She says she's actually relieved though. She's the best thing in my life by far and I do owe that to her mother. Wouldn't change that for the world.
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just for perspective.
As a second child in a failed marriage, my family would have been much better served had my parents gotten divorced. I grew up thinking a hostile family dinamic was normal. It definatly fucked up my sense of comfort with people who get close to me.

Divorce is not always as tough on the kid as the alternative.
 
I would say the same. If it's a mutual thing then it's simple and easy and not expensive. My ex wife was a paralegal at the time, and we had no kids or property. Plus in Idaho (with no kids or real property) it's 20 days from file to final. The total was like $200 bucks.

I was still in my '20s when the whole thing was done so I still had a rose tinted outlook on life.

If it's contested it can be a soul crushing pit of dispair wrapped up in unimaginable debt. Between my Mom, my dad, and me I've been through 7 divorces. Mine was the only one that wasn't a smoking crater in everyones life/psyche/credit report when it was overwith.

The fact that you told your daughter before telling your wife doesn't paint the rosiest of pictures.
 
Mine wasn't complicated and I think it cost a total of around $450. I honestly don't remember the exact amount. Like Connie, we also used Legal Zoom and it couldn't have been any simpler. We even owned a house together and that was simple to deal with as is any other shared property...assuming you can both agree on how to split the stuff up. No lawyers, no paralegals, no hassle, no bullshit. We didn't have any kids though and as I understand it that can really mess things up.
 
zphreak said:
19 years also means long term marriage which in the eyes of family court means lifetime alimony.
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Alimony is the sheerest load of shit. It's fucking criminal.

Kornholio said:
We didn't have any kids though and as I understand it that can really mess things up.
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That only happens if the two parents want to use the kids as weapons to get at each other. Happens a lot, unfortunately, but kids do not necessarily complicate matters.
 
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Dr. Evil said:
Alimony is the sheerest load of shit. It's fucking criminal.
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Yep. I'm paying my kids' mom $X,XXX per month, for the next 16 years, or until she remarries. Not in child support, but in alimony. The child support is completely separate. Somehow this is what the law has determined to be fair.

Makes dropping off the map awfully tempting.
 
Yep. Apparently it's because while I was out getting an education and career she decided to only raise the kids. I get it, that's an important job. But there's a whole lot of people who do that and also manage to propel their lives forward. Now, at 34 years old, she's never been employed, and is qualified to be a cashier at the grocery store, maybe. And this is clearly my fault.
 
Sorry you and your family have to go through the divorce.

A marriage is a legal contract. As such you really should consider talking with a lawyer if you anticipate having to pay alimony or child care expenses. At the very least you'll be informed of the potential problems based on your unique situation.

I believe the local Bar associations (legal not alcoholic) offer relatively cheap initial consultations. It may cost you the amount you'd spend on a trackday but if it results in you keeping the Ducati you're ahead of the game.
 
NorCalAthlete said:
Deployed 3 times, had 3 kids aged 12-15, came back from 4th deployment with no clue anything was wrong only to have his wife serve him papers soon as he stepped off the plane. She'd sold the house, his bike, his car, and maxed out every credit card he had.
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Ho Lee Fuk, military life can be a kick in the nuts.

zphreak said:
19 years also means long term marriage which in the eyes of family court means lifetime alimony.
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Ho Lee Fuk

motoproponent said:
Between my Mom, my dad, and me I've been through 7 divorces.
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I'm the only person in my family to get divorced :party
(so far)


cycle61 said:
Yep. I'm paying my kids' mom $X,XXX per month, for the next 16 years, or until she remarries.
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Sorry man
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as already pointed out...it could be easy peasy or sky is the limited.

depend if one or both parties is insane.

how much assets and income did she bring in?


if you brought in most of the income and married over 10 years with minor childern you could be in financial ruin.
 
RX311 said:
How much does a divorce cost?:(
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Cost me $83 in 1978, half the filing fee. Made the ex do all the footwork, too. Although the divorce was mutually decided, I still hold it over her that SHE divorced ME, since she did all the work. :laughing

She demands that I call her every weekend, on holidays and our birthdays to chat (she never re-married, lives half a continent away). :rolleyes

Lex
 
divorce can be so bad its insane (and a god chance, if youre married, it will happen)

Dr. Evil said:
Alimony is the sheerest load of shit. It's fucking criminal.



That only happens if the two parents want to use the kids as weapons to get at each other. Happens a lot, unfortunately, but kids do not necessarily complicate matters.
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this
 
Theres a book called "Practical Divorce Solutions"

Divorce doesn't end a relationship it just changes it..
 
cycle61 said:
Yep. I'm paying my kids' mom $X,XXX per month, for the next 16 years, or until she remarries. Not in child support, but in alimony. The child support is completely separate. Somehow this is what the law has determined to be fair.

Makes dropping off the map awfully tempting.
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Funny. I could have asked for spousal support, but I wanted to make sure my ex could afford to keep the house. So I declined.
 
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