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How to be alone?

sfcootz said:
Worst is being with someone and still feeling lonely.
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QFT

Working graveyard shift has pretty much destroyed my social life and I feel like my current relationship is on life support. We see or talk to each other about once a week.
:(

But after several years of unemployment, single day to week contracts and being broke all the time I need the steady work and it's helped me move out of emergency medicine and hazmat which I couldn't physically do any more.
:nchantr

Still sucks.
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sfcootz said:
Worst is being with someone and still feeling lonely.
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Been there done that more than once. Way worse than actually being alone.

Getting pver the relationship and moving on is tough.It takes time but you find yourself again, and that is a feeling that is way better than you imagine it will be.

Ride your bike, do stuff you want to do. Casually date. Hang out with your friends and don't worry about anyone else for a bit.
 
V4 said:
WELCOME TO THE CLUB...:party

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This is what I was thinking to. Once you get over the shock, it's actually a lot more fun.

Plus, cheap booze and loose women help a lot. Just wrap you tool.
 
WeekEndWarrior said:
I think the dog makes it harder with te break up. And I just hate to walk away not feeling like I have gave it everything in my soul to try. You know?
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If you have to try that hard, it's not worth it. You shouldn't have to. It should come naturally, for BOTH people.
 
Time, time time.

I was ecstatic when my X moved out but we'd been broken up for 3 years already.

The first couple of months were awesome until I got laid off. Getting a roommate helped a lot plus it's another person in the house which is cool. Now the dog has some part time company while I'm at work and it helps with the bills.

I've been going out meeting new people and trying to hit barf socials when possible.

Pain is inevitable, but misery is optional :ride :cool
 
Get some strange.

On the other hand, some serious, psycho people out there, both men and women, its easy to hook up with a freak, careful now.
 
Been with the same girl since 17?


Dude, your life is about to rock. You'll wish you did it sooner lol pussy up the wazoo
 
revnort said:
Been there done that more than once. Way worse than actually being alone.
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It's cool, man. I won't tell Julie. Mum's the word....:shhh

kevin 714 said:
Been with the same girl since 17?


Dude, your life is about to rock. You'll wish you did it sooner lol pussy up the wazoo
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This (assuming he doesn't mean pussy up the wazoo in the literal sense. Tryign to figure out how that would even happen). You're young. Use this time to question who you are and what you're about. That should lead you to some good, healthy self-exploration. That self-exploration will lead to all sorts of fun and happiness.

You'll have good days/moments and bad ones. This is ok. Rely on your friends and your motorcycle. As someone else said: take a moto trip somewhere. This is FANTASTIC time of year to travel on a moto in most of this country.
 
Tim my friend, I left a relationship of 8-years when I was 26. House, dog, matching cars, etc.. you name it, we had it.

After the initial shock and depressed state, I had THE BEST TIME OF MY LIFE. I did what I wanted to do, when I wanted to do, and got to go out with some real great women. Honestly, the years after the breakup were the best because I can come into my own.

Hang in there buddy, the first 2-3 months will be rough, but you'll adjust.
 
And whatever you do, do not rebound into another LTR. Give yourself at least a year of being single before getting into anything remotely serious. I've seen some people make some very questionable choices just because I think they needed to fill a perceived void.
 
I'm in a similar situation. Been married for 29 years and separated back in May. There's good days and some not so good. :ride the twisties is helping a lot.
 
Not sure what your personal lifestyle is like, but start hitting the gym. Exercising releases endorphins, it'll help keep your mind off things and you'll feel better about yourself. You'll probably meet some good people too. If you're not into the gym, maybe just take up running or cycling, any form of physical activity.
 
MikeyRocks said:
Not sure what your personal lifestyle is like, but start hitting the gym. Exercising releases endorphins, it'll help keep your mind off things and you'll feel better about yourself. You'll probably meet some good people too. If you're not into the gym, maybe just take up running or cycling, any form of physical activity.
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I hiked. Every. Single. Day. I lost a bunch of weight.

The hiking kept me sane.
 
jt2 said:
And whatever you do, do not rebound into another LTR. Give yourself at least a year of being single before getting into anything remotely serious. I've seen some people make some very questionable choices just because I think they needed to fill a perceived void.
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This.

MikeyRocks said:
Not sure what your personal lifestyle is like, but start hitting the gym. Exercising releases endorphins, it'll help keep your mind off things and you'll feel better about yourself. You'll probably meet some good people too. If you're not into the gym, maybe just take up running or cycling, any form of physical activity.
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and this. Workout-daily. Eat three healthy meals. Go to bed on time.

Physically feeling well will help you so very much.

Consider reading. Computers and tv will keep you awake.
 
WeekEndWarrior said:
10 years in a relastionship, house, car, dog. Now it might be over.

Shit I haven't been single since I was 17?
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That -being alone- is going to be really hard for you. I say go in as many social/group motorides or activities you can. You'll find another. But if you want to be alone for a bit, it's gonna be hard. For me, it's easy, I have never been in a relationship as long as that. You would be surprised how long I have been in one. I am what you consider a loner, an outcast, all my life since high school. So it's easy for me to fall back into that aloneness when it comes. Don't get me wrong, I am social because of family and what the school in class out class environment has taught me but that also only go as far. You still have to come home.

Hope I made sense.
 
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You're going to learn more about yourself and who you are now that you are alone.

With the same girl since 17? Never any time to truly develop into your own man, mentally. Alway start of a pair.

The next few years are going to really show you who you are, and will become, as a man. It's going to be great dude, seriously.
 
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