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How to be alone?

jt2 said:
And whatever you do, do not rebound into another LTR. Give yourself at least a year of being single before getting into anything remotely serious. I've seen some people make some very questionable choices just because I think they needed to fill a perceived void.
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There is a lot of good advise in here, but I had to highlight this one. Abso-fucking-lutely this!!
You need time to be truly on your own, to find out who the fuck you are outside of the relationship you've been in. It will be so.fucking.hard. But you will eventually come around to enjoying the solitude, and wonder why it was ever so difficult.

Just like everyone says, this period of time will feel shitty but you are very close to experiencing the best years of your life :) :party
In the meantime, ride the hell out of your bike (perhaps to the Hawthorne rally??), run, hike, learn new things (take a class!!), do some urban wandering and definitely come out to meet some of the barfs :thumbup
 
stan23 said:
Tim my friend, I left a relationship of 8-years when I was 26. House, dog, matching cars, etc.. you name it, we had it.

After the initial shock and depressed state, I had THE BEST TIME OF MY LIFE. I did what I wanted to do, when I wanted to do, and got to go out with some real great women. Honestly, the years after the breakup were the best because I can come into my own.

Hang in there buddy, the first 2-3 months will be rough, but you'll adjust.
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This. A few months and you'll have the distance and perspective you need to feel the relief of the weight that has been lifted...
 
Thank you everyone so much. Everyone's post I read and think yes I can do this. Starting the gym on Thursday and plan to start riding anywhere and everywhere.

It will be a big change for me for sure. I have to keep my mind busy :teeth
 
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first step:
be your own best friend and love yourself the most.

second step:
realize that you are free. you can now do whatever you want, whenever you want.

third step:
profit
 
How YOU doin'? Are you hawt? :teeth
 
WeekEndWarrior said:
10 years in a relastionship, house, car, dog. Now it might be over.

Shit I haven't been single since I was 17?
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Come up to the pad bro, and hang out for a weekend. We'll drink a beer, or sixty. After we go for a dope Norcal ride, of course.
 
You're gonna be o.k. You've already made plans to get some exercise and do fun stuff like riding :ride. :thumbup Hang in there, and yes... please don't go rushing into a new relationship. Time for you now!!

Have to admit that yea, at first it's hard, because you'll have all these thoughts of your x, but time will heal all wounds.
 
Well ive been through this kind of thing several times its part of life especailly these days. Dont dwell on it get on with life i know its muchh easier said than done but we all go through it one way or the other. i lost one wife after 22 years one day she woke up and told me she had been fooling around with a guy at work! it was tough but i got through it im nothing special almost every barfer has gone through it or will in the future its the way of the world.
You will meet another lady who will make you forget the old one for the most part and you will appreciate the new one even more because of what you have been through. life is a journey and we are meant to take lessons from it this is part of the journey. I didnt think i would survive the first time when i was a kid the second was much worse due to the duration of the relationship then one day i met this lady and things took off got married then wham divorced again due to issues wiht my daughter well she grew up and moved away and sttangley enough oi got back together with the third ex with my daughter out of the way things are going better than ever. Life throws all kinds of twists and turns at you it takes skill to negitiate the twisties in life just like your favorite road! but we get better with exposure the bumps and scrapes dont seem nearly as bad We all go through it and when you least expect it you will meet a lady who will make you happy and forget about the past. Trust me things will work out in thier own time. Be patient and dont let the past eat you up move on keep busy and above all be safe ride aware and never ride when pisssed off or sad!
 
Hooli said:
We can make it a 3-way. :rofl
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Remember: It's not gay if it's a three-way. :thumbup

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:laughing :rofl
 
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