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Online Dating, whats your experience?

sfcootz said:
Cynner, it's not like I get a ton of responses but I finally decided that I should rely a little less on the online persona
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Wanna help me rewrite my profile and take some better photos? :teeth
 
Cynner, sure! I can help you out. :) I'm not the best photographer ever but let's go to the park some day and take some shots.
 
Traq said:
Angry short guy is angry. :laughing

Let me guess, you've been doing your weight lifting routine since middle school...and then you complain about being a midget!
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:laughing You couldnt be more wrong if your name was Wrong :laughing

Thank you drive through come again :twofinger
 
sfcootz said:
No. Guys have been creepy jerks about me visiting their profile and not replying to their message.
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heh, that's all I got from "dating" sites. a few profile browses, quite a bit of spam, and a whole lotta silence.

I was able to get that for free :p

It was like some sort of Zen thing: the only way to find was to give up on the search.
 
Asphaultnaut said:
heh, that's all I got from "dating" sites. a few profile browses, quite a bit of spam, and a whole lotta silence.

I was able to get that for free :p

It was like some sort of Zen thing: the only way to find was to give up on the search.
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+1. Sometimes, with as much traffic as mine gets that it feels like I don't even have a profile. But, I do have a suspicion as to why....and that is because I am a smoker.
 
Are you asking for the linky to me profile?

I don't have a fan club.
 
Dubbington said:
You sound frustrated and jaded :laughing I disagree with your assumption. I dont act like anything and am not trying to 'convince' them to date height. I'm 'convincing' them to go on a date with a person thats interested and go from there. If they reply guess what, they're more interested than they were before I emailed them. You dont know anything about someone you hit on in person. Are they smokers? Religious? College educated? Want kids? All rule outs on dating sites but that doesnt stop a vast majority. Thats the funny paradox with dating sites. It allows people to create this picture of the perfect date which really sets them up for failure because they dont exist.
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I do?

You're right about not knowing anything about anybody when you're hitting on them in person...except their height :laughing. You're lying about yourself to get dates, simple as that. Not saying women don't do it, just saying that you are.
 
sfcootz said:
Also, Momo may be going on a date with someone Saturday but she's ending up with me because we're going dancing. :x
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Got that right lady! Imma gettin' ready :party :banana

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JesasaurusRex said:
I do?

You're right about not knowing anything about anybody when you're hitting on them in person...except their height :laughing. You're lying about yourself to get dates, simple as that. Not saying women don't do it, just saying that you are.
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Damn you are on drugs or just a giant moron. Lying?? :laughing. Who's lying? I'm 5'6 and my profile says so. It's not lying to anyone if I don't meet the criteria she lists and I email anyway. Thats called taking a chance, try it sometime. You've been burned recently havent you? I respond to profiles I'm interested in regardless of the criteria they are looking for....granted I'm realistic. If the girl is 5'10 and above I pass. I dated a girl for about a year that was 5'8. She wanted a dude 5'10 but she mentioned Boondock Saints in her profile so I messaged her and we connected. Think less man and do more, you'll be much happier. :thumbup Oh and dont pretend you know me either, you dont.

lying?? :wow :laughing You're funny!
 
I didn't go through a dating site, but was introduced online to a friend of a friend I knew offline. They had "met" through being interested in military things.

After 3.5 years, all I've learned is that I will never date anyone in the military again, never do long-distance, never think I'm petty for wanting someone remotely attractive and that people can, in fact, be so addicted to porn that they can't get off with another human being, but only by their own hand.


Never. Again.


My friend has a profile that he hasn't touched/been looked at for years. He threw up a pic of himself on his bike and full gear and got like 12 hits from girls, though. Lol.
Just something to keep in mind if you try it.
 
Dubbington said:
It's amazing how similar everyone's experience on OKC and other sites is similar.

Only bad date I had...guess maybe two. One which I menionted here before. I really connected with the girl on the phone, talked several hours. Met in person and her photos were not her or just a decade older. She also ordered $21 glasses of champagne and nearly bit the waiters arm when he reached for the dessert that looked finished.

One nice thing with OKC is unless you pay...which Im not sure who does...you cannot search by height. This helps me out being 5'6. Match.com you can search by height AND now filter emails too by criteria. So if a girl wants a 5'7 or taller and sets her filters up that way, my email goes to her spam box which she'll never check. That's pretty horse shit. What gets me are the girls that are 5'4 or shorter and need a dude 6" taller. You're on a dating website because obviously your normal routine/shit isnt working, why would you limit yourself? Just a pet peeve you can see :laughing I've actually listed myself as 5'7 and got so many more messages. But now I dont really care and just message away and if they dont reply its on to the next.

I do feel online dating may create a 'grass is greener' mentality. This may prevent the feeling of a spark because one knows they can go home, search and rattle off a dozen messages in a half hour.
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Dubbington said:
Damn you are on drugs or just a giant moron. Lying?? :laughing. Who's lying? I'm 5'6 and my profile says so. It's not lying to anyone if I don't meet the criteria she lists and I email anyway. Thats called taking a chance, try it sometime. You've been burned recently havent you? I respond to profiles I'm interested in regardless of the criteria they are looking for....granted I'm realistic. If the girl is 5'10 and above I pass. I dated a girl for about a year that was 5'8. She wanted a dude 5'10 but she mentioned Boondock Saints in her profile so I messaged her and we connected. Think less man and do more, you'll be much happier. :thumbup Oh and dont pretend you know me either, you dont.

lying?? :wow :laughing You're funny!
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I think you may be unclear as to what the word lying means.
 
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