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Online Dating, whats your experience?

Bronto said:
I suspect 90 % of the women on there is from raided model profiles pages. The web sight makes it's money by communication and photo exchanges between daters.
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Tineye and GIS is your friend... I was using an add-on greasemonkey script for OkC that would allow me to GIS/Tineye any image on a profile to see if there were similar matches on the web. If a woman looks too good to be true in her profile photos, she probably is. I discovered quite often that 'women' with 'amazing' profile photos had ripped them from ModelMayhem or similar sites.

Using that method it's easy to weed out the fakes from the real profiles.
 
Its become a routine, check out the models every night :D 4-10 pictures of each model. So many shapes, sizes and features, its mesmerizing. :party
 
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I agree with Moike, it does become work at a certain point. Because of that I took a little OKC hiatus for awhile; I just signed back up and am going out on a "pre-date" this weekend (it's not a real date until you've met face to face).

For the many pre-dates I've been on, I've never had a nightmare meeting. Everyone has been pretty damn pleasant, which is great (and luckY!). I usually go to a new place, meet a new person and every once in awhile find a new playmate. Overall, pretty good stuff.

Buuuut, like W.L. I'm getting a bit tired of just playing around. Who knew?! Maybe I really do need to start dating people my own age :laughing. Those damn youngsters are so fun though!
 
Jeanette, remind those yung-un's that you're not there to teach too much.

It's a bedroom, not a classroom. :x
 
Momo-san said:
I agree with Moike, it does become work at a certain point. Because of that I took a little OKC hiatus for awhile; I just signed back up and am going out on a "pre-date" this weekend (it's not a real date until you've met face to face).

For the many pre-dates I've been on, I've never had a nightmare meeting. Everyone has been pretty damn pleasant, which is great (and luckY!). I usually go to a new place, meet a new person and every once in awhile find a new playmate. Overall, pretty good stuff.

Buuuut, like W.L. I'm getting a bit tired of just playing around. Who knew?! Maybe I really do need to start dating people my own age :laughing. Those damn youngsters are so fun though!
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It's amazing how similar everyone's experience on OKC and other sites is similar.

Only bad date I had...guess maybe two. One which I menionted here before. I really connected with the girl on the phone, talked several hours. Met in person and her photos were not her or just a decade older. She also ordered $21 glasses of champagne and nearly bit the waiters arm when he reached for the dessert that looked finished.

One nice thing with OKC is unless you pay...which Im not sure who does...you cannot search by height. This helps me out being 5'6. Match.com you can search by height AND now filter emails too by criteria. So if a girl wants a 5'7 or taller and sets her filters up that way, my email goes to her spam box which she'll never check. That's pretty horse shit. What gets me are the girls that are 5'4 or shorter and need a dude 6" taller. You're on a dating website because obviously your normal routine/shit isnt working, why would you limit yourself? Just a pet peeve you can see :laughing I've actually listed myself as 5'7 and got so many more messages. But now I dont really care and just message away and if they dont reply its on to the next.

I do feel online dating may create a 'grass is greener' mentality. This may prevent the feeling of a spark because one knows they can go home, search and rattle off a dozen messages in a half hour.
 
Dubbington said:
It's amazing how similar everyone's experience on OKC and other sites is similar.

Only bad date I had...guess maybe two. One which I menionted here before. I really connected with the girl on the phone, talked several hours. Met in person and her photos were not her or just a decade older. She also ordered $21 glasses of champagne and nearly bit the waiters arm when he reached for the dessert that looked finished.

One nice thing with OKC is unless you pay...which Im not sure who does...you cannot search by height. This helps me out being 5'6. Match.com you can search by height AND now filter emails too by criteria. So if a girl wants a 5'7 or taller and sets her filters up that way, my email goes to her spam box which she'll never check. That's pretty horse shit. What gets me are the girls that are 5'4 or shorter and need a dude 6" taller. You're on a dating website because obviously your normal routine/shit isnt working, why would you limit yourself? Just a pet peeve you can see :laughing I've actually listed myself as 5'7 and got so many more messages. But now I dont really care and just message away and if they dont reply its on to the next.

I do feel online dating may create a 'grass is greener' mentality. This may prevent the feeling of a spark because one knows they can go home, search and rattle off a dozen messages in a half hour.
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You act like you're going to talk a broad into being attracted to short guys. You're just setting yourself up for failure and wasting another persons time.
 
JesasaurusRex said:
You act like you're going to talk a broad into being attracted to short guys. You're just setting yourself up for failure and wasting another persons time.
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You sound frustrated and jaded :laughing I disagree with your assumption. I dont act like anything and am not trying to 'convince' them to date height. I'm 'convincing' them to go on a date with a person thats interested and go from there. If they reply guess what, they're more interested than they were before I emailed them. You dont know anything about someone you hit on in person. Are they smokers? Religious? College educated? Want kids? All rule outs on dating sites but that doesnt stop a vast majority. Thats the funny paradox with dating sites. It allows people to create this picture of the perfect date which really sets them up for failure because they dont exist.
 
Dubbington said:
One nice thing with OKC is unless you pay...which Im not sure who does...you cannot search by height. This helps me out being 5'6. Match.com you can search by height AND now filter emails too by criteria. So if a girl wants a 5'7 or taller and sets her filters up that way, my email goes to her spam box which she'll never check. That's pretty horse shit.
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Angry short guy is angry. :laughing

Let me guess, you've been doing your weight lifting routine since middle school...and then you complain about being a midget!
 
Dubbington said:
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One nice thing with OKC is unless you pay...which Im not sure who does...you cannot search by height. .....
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I pay so that I can go check out a guy's profile when he's messaged me without him knowing. I had a few guys send angry emails when I checked them out after receiving a message and didn't reply to it. I guess they thought I was supposed to be smitten by the picture of them standing next to a car or with their ex girlfriend or their "LOL" filled profile. :dunno

Also, Momo may be going on a date with someone Saturday but she's ending up with me because we're going dancing. :x
 
sfcootz said:
I pay so that I can go check out a guy's profile when he's messaged me without him knowing. I had a few guys send angry emails when I checked them out after receiving a message and didn't reply to it. I guess they thought I was supposed to be smitten by the picture of them standing next to a car or with their ex girlfriend or their "LOL" filled profile. :dunno

Also, Momo may be going on a date with someone Saturday but she's ending up with me because we're going dancing. :x
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When I was doing this I had a second 'sockpuppet' account I had set up with sparse details and no photos. I'd use the sockpuppet to check out a profile from a different web browser.

OkCupid has recently figured out how to squeeze money out of the desperate.

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Moike said:
When I was doing this I had a second 'sockpuppet' account I had set up with sparse details and no photos. I'd use the sockpuppet to check out a profile from a different web browser.

OkCupid has recently figured out how to squeeze money out of the desperate.

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It sounds like you had some slick stuff set up on your OKC. Maybe I should set up a sockpuppet account... I could save the $5.00.
 
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