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Is holding hands in public important part of a relationship..?

SpeedyCorky said:
come to think of it, I dont think i've ever met a financially independent (and i'm not talking paycheck to paycheck, i'm talking $70k/yr or more) woman who was in a successful long term relationship, AND was totally down with PDAs. are they thinking that some 'better catch' might be watching and they want to appear single?!
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Dude your credit score is intertwined with dating.

http://money.cnn.com/2013/07/24/pf/credit-score-dating/index.html?hpt=hp_t3

"It doesn't matter how beautiful they are, that's not going to pay the mortgage."
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:rofl
 
I don't know if it's bad credit scores so much as it's just people with poor money control. It doesn't matter how good looking they are if they can't mange their money.
 
SpeedyCorky said:
when America moved into the territory that women were forced to work b/c the man couldnt earn enough to pay for mortgage, kids, food, etc
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Actually, it was the other way around. Women were empowered to have careers in the '70's, and many women who were married with children went out and worked. The rise of the two-income household in middle-class America meant that more households had more money, and when more people have more money to spend, the price of EVERYTHING goes up. Houses, cars, ballet lessons, you name it; if a family spends money on it, it got more expensive when more middle-class mothers started working.
 
I've dated the entire gamut. Generally speaking women have vaginas.
 
Thar iz better ways ta show one's affection...

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afm199 said:
I've dated the entire gamut. Generally speaking women have vaginas.
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:laughing

Ernie with another pearl of wisdom.

Corky, I'm afraid I also need to re-read your post and possibly get another coffee... :confused

Banjoboy said:
Thar iz better ways ta show one's affection...

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Like leading slower riders around on goat roads? :love :love :love
 
The answer is yes.

I still remember the first time I held hands with Ms. BA. The ol' heart in the throat, fluttery feeling.

I don' want to be anything but all the way in love. I guess if yer dating fer giggles, you can consider all these conditions. But when you really love someone, yer all in. Except when you walk faster and they're mad at ya so they walk slower on purpose, like on a certain recent vacation in a certain very hot country. Nyuk. I SAW more pics in the Prado, dammit. Of course, I can't quite remember all of 'em, but I saw 'em!!!
 
V4 said:
So i was kinda seeing a woman for a bit...good company, fun conversations, joking around,and strolls in public places..

All good and stuff...

But one thing i hate most is holding hands when walking together...just seems so juvenile...im an earshot away and can see and hear her when talking..but when she reaches out for my hand when we walk, it just bugs me...dont see the point of holding hands..i keep my ands in my pocket when she reaches out but after awhile i find myself scootin away..

I got to a point where i cant walk next to her anymore and she picked up on it..we chatted about it and see this as a huge difference in our relationship so we parted ways..

Is holding hands such a big deal and important in a relationship..?
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Superficial things like holding hands, etc. isn't importance in a true relationship.

What is important is if you trust her completely.
 
SpeedyCorky said:
come to think of it, I dont think i've ever met a financially independent (and i'm not talking paycheck to paycheck, i'm talking $70k/yr or more) woman who was in a successful long term relationship, AND was totally down with PDAs. are they thinking that some 'better catch' might be watching and they want to appear single?! i dunno, hopefully its just a lack of life experience problem on my end; i'm sure they are out there.... just seems few and far between.
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:wave

By your standards I am financially independent and for the record, I love holding hands with my boyfriend of 4 years. That's 4 years of living together, 7 years of being friends. So, apparently a financially successful woman can be in a long-term relationship and be down with PDA :thumbup

Granted, I won't be on my back on an In-N-Out table making out hardcore, but I'll hold his hand, kiss him and hug him freely wherever we are, without thought to who is watching or whether I'm discouraging someone "better" from pursuing me.
 
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sv2007 said:
Superficial things like holding hands, etc. isn't importance in a true relationship.

What is important is if you trust her completely.
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that sounds right intellectually, but not experientially. Hand-holding is a confirmation of sorts, that periodically gets revisited.
 
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