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Online Dating, whats your experience?
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Finally got that kiss?
i_am_the_koi
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OKC vs POF vs ____???
Cycle61
What the shit is this...
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Normally, until she starts asking if she can cut you and suck your blood....
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i_am_the_koi
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She was hawt, and a nymph... but that crossed my line.... especially with where she wanted to "bleed me"
asthmodeus
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i met a legitimate, true to life nymphomaniac on there and got laid A LOT for about a year and a half, laid once and got blown on the initial date twice..the other ones were just self centered bitchez
I dated about forty women I met online in 4 years. I only had one bad date, all the rest were fun or interesting in some way. I had a few relationships according to the thirty day rule. I had three more or less significant others. I suffered two broken hearts. Wait, only one heart, broke twice.
I wound up in a good relationship. We both were on POF and never thought to check it out online. She's local and we met a little unconventionally but definitely offline.
What I think I discovered:
Online profiles don't predict that well who you'll click with. Maybe who you won't though.
Date a lot, you will learn something about yourself every time.
The biological clock fucks everything up. Mature independent people are a lot more interesting.
You can't always get what you want but if you try sometimes you just might find you get what you need.
The whole mating thing is still pretty random.
I wound up in a good relationship. We both were on POF and never thought to check it out online. She's local and we met a little unconventionally but definitely offline.
What I think I discovered:
Online profiles don't predict that well who you'll click with. Maybe who you won't though.
Date a lot, you will learn something about yourself every time.
The biological clock fucks everything up. Mature independent people are a lot more interesting.
You can't always get what you want but if you try sometimes you just might find you get what you need.
The whole mating thing is still pretty random.
Moike
Shit Magnet
So this thread bumped into my mailbox, and I thought I'd give an update...
I first got back on OkC in October of last year... About the time I decided to add my two cents to the thread. I had lots of bad first dates, no real click or chemistry. I was sending messages to any woman I found remotely interesting. But, I burned out on it... I kinda gave up and added the following to the header in my profile...
This worked gangbusters... One, I quit sending out messages. So I no longer had to deal with the work of crafting a clever introductory message after reading a users profile to let her know I actually took the time to read what she had to say about herself VS what a lot of guys do, using copypasta and a shotgun approach hoping for a response.
I was still getting a trickle of about two or three messages from women a week. Most I could tell were not going to be a click based on how we answered our profile questions, or what I consider red flags in their essay question answers. But the ones I felt there was a chance with, they were honestly interested in me, and not just looking for a free dinner/coffee.
It also cut my dating way back... it had got to the point where I had 'first dates' scheduled with women three sometimes four days a week... and it started to feel like work. Showing up, meeting someone who I knew within a couple minutes (or seconds) I would never be a good match with. Then spending the rest of the 'date' telling the same dozen or so 'amusing life stories' over bad coffee like I was auditioning for a part in a play or at a job interview.
One date every week to two weeks was far less stress and kept me from feeling 'forever alone'.
Well, fast-forward about eight months. I get an interesting message from a woman who would have never shown up based on the search criteria I use when looking at profiles. We have several great conversations in IM, that moves on to the phone... and an amazingly good first date. I even got a kiss at the end.
Well, fast-forward to now... We've seen each other two or three times a week for the last couple months. She's officially my girlfriend, and we get along like gangbusters. I never would have thought I'd find someone I'd have this much 'POW' with on a crappy intertubes dating website.
She loves video games, she's into pinball, I've got her cutting 26 second laps down at K1 speed and she wants to learn how to go even faster, she's got my fucked up sense of humor, she's tech savvy, intelligent, articulate, and on top of all of that... smoking hot.
So it does work... Color me of all people surprised. I would have never guessed.
The cherry on top? She just turned 24, I just turned 39. That little gem right there will make a guy pimp-walk with 'Jungle Boogie' playing in the background everywhere he goes.
The only drawback is poor Hooli has to put up with us being stupid around each other every time she's over at the house.
I first got back on OkC in October of last year... About the time I decided to add my two cents to the thread. I had lots of bad first dates, no real click or chemistry. I was sending messages to any woman I found remotely interesting. But, I burned out on it... I kinda gave up and added the following to the header in my profile...
This worked gangbusters... One, I quit sending out messages. So I no longer had to deal with the work of crafting a clever introductory message after reading a users profile to let her know I actually took the time to read what she had to say about herself VS what a lot of guys do, using copypasta and a shotgun approach hoping for a response.
I was still getting a trickle of about two or three messages from women a week. Most I could tell were not going to be a click based on how we answered our profile questions, or what I consider red flags in their essay question answers. But the ones I felt there was a chance with, they were honestly interested in me, and not just looking for a free dinner/coffee.
It also cut my dating way back... it had got to the point where I had 'first dates' scheduled with women three sometimes four days a week... and it started to feel like work. Showing up, meeting someone who I knew within a couple minutes (or seconds) I would never be a good match with. Then spending the rest of the 'date' telling the same dozen or so 'amusing life stories' over bad coffee like I was auditioning for a part in a play or at a job interview.
One date every week to two weeks was far less stress and kept me from feeling 'forever alone'.
Well, fast-forward about eight months. I get an interesting message from a woman who would have never shown up based on the search criteria I use when looking at profiles. We have several great conversations in IM, that moves on to the phone... and an amazingly good first date. I even got a kiss at the end.
Well, fast-forward to now... We've seen each other two or three times a week for the last couple months. She's officially my girlfriend, and we get along like gangbusters. I never would have thought I'd find someone I'd have this much 'POW' with on a crappy intertubes dating website.
She loves video games, she's into pinball, I've got her cutting 26 second laps down at K1 speed and she wants to learn how to go even faster, she's got my fucked up sense of humor, she's tech savvy, intelligent, articulate, and on top of all of that... smoking hot.
So it does work... Color me of all people surprised. I would have never guessed.
The cherry on top? She just turned 24, I just turned 39. That little gem right there will make a guy pimp-walk with 'Jungle Boogie' playing in the background everywhere he goes.
The only drawback is poor Hooli has to put up with us being stupid around each other every time she's over at the house.
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littlebeast
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OMG dude - that is so fucking awesome!!! 
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Fuck off
Mike 
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^ Pretty much a best case scenario right there
I've been in a relationship with my GF for over 3 years now, whom which I met on Myspace of all places
to this day I don't think either of us has told anybody that. Anyway, I've been out of the game for awhile and coming into this thread I had no clue how many dating sites there are out there these days. I thought that industry was pretty much limited to eharmony and what not.My two cents, it definitely works, just takes two things -> virtuous patience & being yourself.
Dubbington
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Moike you read my mind! Referring to the disclaimer you essentially added. Every time
I went to do it I thought it would never work and come off as arrogant but you said it well.
I'm pretty much over the time and effort I spend on the emails I send. The girls complain about getting the "you fine azz" messages but still don't respond to my 5-10 minute effort message AND even though we were a 85% OKC match. I'm crossing my fingers on the couple girls I'm talking to now and have dates set up especially one even though she lives a lil further than my normal radius If nothing pans out I think I'll take a break.
I went to do it I thought it would never work and come off as arrogant but you said it well.
I'm pretty much over the time and effort I spend on the emails I send. The girls complain about getting the "you fine azz" messages but still don't respond to my 5-10 minute effort message AND even though we were a 85% OKC match. I'm crossing my fingers on the couple girls I'm talking to now and have dates set up especially one even though she lives a lil further than my normal radius
If nothing pans out I think I'll take a break.
Moike
Shit Magnet
Moike you read my mind! Referring to the disclaimer you essentially added. Every time
I went to do it I thought it would never work and come off as arrogant but you said it well.
I'm pretty much over the time and effort I spend on the emails I send. The girls complain about getting the "you fine azz" messages but still don't respond to my 5-10 minute effort message AND even though we were a 85% OKC match. I'm crossing my fingers on the couple girls I'm talking to now and have dates set up especially one even though she lives a lil further than my normal radius
Feel free to steal anything you want from my profile if you think it will help...
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Formula_Mike/
I leave it up as a teaching tool.
Hooli
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The only drawback is poor Hooli has to put up with us being stupid around each other every time she's over at the house.
Oh I got that covered bro...
And yeah, Moike's girl is definitely a hottie.
We all seem to make fun of online dating, but you can bump into good people anywhere. Online dating, in a store, through a friend, catch someone's eye at a bar, out for a walk....the possibilities are endless, you just never know when the spark will strike.