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Pity sex with an ex -- is it worth it?

It's hard to say if it's worth it. There's a chance that it could leave you feeling a little sad or depressed about the times past and the way things tend to fade away.

Or, the sex might make you hungry. It might make you feel hungry deep down inside. You might feel a hunger for something else, something different than the same old thing. It might be a ravenous hunger that can only be sated with corned beef, sauerkraut, swiss cheese, and thousand island dressing on grilled dark rye bread.

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omg :drool
 
Pity sex:

Good for guys (cause we have no morals)

Bad for females who remember how bad we've treated them. You already answered your own question.
masameet said:
[Sigh] I should just forget him.
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Now all ya have to do is use a little Barf support and be strong.


cardinal03 said:
I'm pretty sure we'll need several nude pictures of you to give you good advice. Please do the needful.
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oh yeah,
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edit: where's the poll?
 
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masameet said:
Oh, yes. Please! :laughing

The sex was great. That's one thing I could count on him to deliver. He just wasn't much of a friend toward the end. Disappointed me, hurt me, and didn't seem to care.
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I think that you gave the most telling information right here.

If you just go back to giving him sex after he did that for you, I can guarantee that it will be worse next time around.

Why? Because he treated you like shit, then you just spread your legs the next time you see him as if he didn't do anything wrong. I can tell you flat out that you would be giving a loud and clear message that it is ok to treat you like shit and that there is no consequences for doing so.

Just my :2cents
 
wiffledaddy said:
It's hard to say if it's worth it. There's a chance that it could leave you feeling a little sad or depressed about the times past and the way things tend to fade away.

Or, the sex might make you hungry. It might make you feel hungry deep down inside. You might feel a hunger for something else, something different than the same old thing. It might be a ravenous hunger that can only be sated with corned beef, sauerkraut, swiss cheese, and thousand island dressing on grilled dark rye bread.

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omg :drool
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Mitchhedberg: I hate sammiches at new york delis. Too much fuckin meat on the sandwich, it’s like a cow with a cracker on either side.

Hypothetyical new york sandwich maker (HNYSM) : what would you like sir?
Mithc: a pastrami sandwich
HNYSM: anything else
Mitch: yeah, a loaf of bread and some Other PEOPLE
HNYSM: what kind of bread
Mitch: Rye, no fuck, you have banana bread?
HNYSM: what kind of cheese
Mitch: cottage
HNYSM: get the fuck out. I’m not making a banana bread pastrami cottage cheese sandwich… that would severely ruin my reputation
 
Having sex pretty much guarantees you will revisit everything you previously experienced getting over him. Things don't change, and it sounds like you've gone through a lot because of this guy. There are plenty of other people you can meet who won't come with baggage.

Might I ask... Who ended the relationship, and why did they end it?
 
Climber said:
I think that you gave the most telling information right here.

If you just go back to giving him sex after he did that for you, I can guarantee that it will be worse next time around.

Why? Because he treated you like shit, then you just spread your legs the next time you see him as if he didn't do anything wrong. I can tell you flat out that you would be giving a loud and clear message that it is ok to treat you like shit and that there is no consequences for doing so.

Just my :2cents
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Too true!
Nothing like a little low self esteem to get the goods on a booty call.
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When I was younger and conservative I would have said "No!"
I'm older and wiser and think if the sex was good, "Why not?" as long as
I'm not in another relationship.
 
masameet said:
I'm a fairly forgiving person. I know if we were together again, I wouldn't hold my angry feelings against him. I still love him after all.

I want to move on. Just haven't found the new guy yet.
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It's amazing how chicks can forgive someone who's done them wrong. :wtf

I have a few Bee-yotches who I'll hate 4ever. :laughing

Please post a pic of yourself so I can see if I will hate him for getting to "Hit it" again. :teeth
 
Always a good idea, as long as they don't get to know where you live.

And you are not a sentimental little girl like me.
 
after reading more of your info on this guy I'd say you were just setting yourself up for disappointment- sounds like maybe there wasn't much of a sense of closure when it ended. sleeping with him again isn't gonna change that.
I've only hooked back up with one person after a break up- we'd see each other when we weren't seeing anyone else and for the life of me I can't really explain why we never just made things permanent between us, it just worked that way. so in one case n one case only, it worked- but we have a lot of respect for each other and there's always been a great deal of real feeling behind it.
any other ex's of mine can just sit home on a bag of ice bc it ain't happening.

guess what you gotta ask yourself is, what do you expect to take from it, and is that acceptable to you?
 
Do everything you didn't do when you regularly had sex...that way maybe it'll seem like a new person!

However, that's not carte' blanch to take a shit on his head. Within reason.
 
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