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Pity sex with an ex -- is it worth it?

So what's happening... did OP give hip pity sex... ??? What's going on... ??? :laughing I'm totally nosing into peoples :sex lives:p:laughing...

But really I wanna know.. I mean.. how can I live vicariously if I don't.. :p:toothless
 
Dont worry Hooli. I think a nice wax & buff is in order. "Will shine like new and clean after!" :rofl
 
Huh, interesting. Everyone brought up the "he hasn't changed" argument, and I just kinda went :wtf? She didn't say she wanted a relationship...she said she wanted sex. The sex was admittedly great, so who gives a shit about the other stuff?

Then I read the last post by masameet, and it paints a really different picture. The girls in the thread picked it up better than the guys...you girls were pretty unanimous about it being a bad idea.

What'd you guys read that I missed? I going back to reread and improve my reading-between-the-lines skills...
 
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arnoha said:
Huh, interesting. Everyone brought up the "he hasn't changed" argument, and I just kinda went :wtf? She didn't say she wanted a relationship...she said she wanted sex. The sex was admittedly great, so who gives a shit about the other stuff?

Then I read the last post by masameet, and it paints a really different picture. The girls in the thread picked it up better than the guys...you girls were pretty unanimous about it being a bad idea.

What'd you guys read that I missed? I going back to reread and improve my reading-between-the-lines skills...
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I saw it.

The huge majority of women can't separate emotions from sex. They won't have sex with you unless there is some sort of emotional bond of some sort. And if they have sex with you, they see some sort of relationship along with the wet sheets.

She had said she still cared about him in the very beginning, and if it was him who wanted out of the relationship, he would be crazy to jump back in the sack with her. Of course if he just wanted to 'Hit It' one more time, then he probably got it. :)

She will be the one paying the emotional price. Been there, done that.
 
Sane_Man said:
I saw it.

The huge majority of women can't separate emotions from sex. They won't have sex with you unless there is some sort of emotional bond of some sort. And if they have sex with you, they see some sort of relationship along with the wet sheets.

She had said she still cared about him in the very beginning, and if it was him who wanted out of the relationship, he would be crazy to jump back in the sack with her. Of course if he just wanted to 'Hit It' one more time, then he probably got it. :)

She will be the one paying the emotional price. Been there, done that.
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Rewatch 'Vanilla Sky' for more information on the topic. :laughing
 
Sane_Man your talking like you were just there last night.

Of course if he just wanted to 'Hit It' one more time, then he probably got it.
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:thumbup
 
Yes, it seems that most women cannot treat sex as the majority of men do: with no emotional attachment, as simply recreational, and thus a sport. I've known only one woman who could at the same time carry on multiple liaisons with men. She was a very talented photographer. I think she's in Israel now.

And for all you who want to know, I gave him the heave-ho. My last words were: "I know you. And you won't." Then I hung up on him. And he didn't. Thus my genuine surprise to hear his voice once more. Last night I listened to his message a few more times before finally deleting it.
 
masameet said:
Yes, it seems that most women cannot treat sex as the majority of men do: with no emotional attachment, as simply recreational, and thus a sport. I've known only one woman who could at the same time carry on multiple liaisons with men. She was a very talented photographer. I think she's in Israel now.

And for all you who want to know, I gave him the heave-ho. My last words were: "I know you. And you won't." Then I hung up on him. And he didn't. Thus my genuine surprise to hear his voice once more. Last night I listened to his message a few more times before finally deleting it.
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Good for taking a decision. Stick with it.
You can go the Sexy Man thread for visual thrills. =)
Plenty of fish in the sea.

:)
 
masameet said:
Yes, it seems that most women cannot treat sex as the majority of men do: with no emotional attachment, as simply recreational, and thus a sport. I've known only one woman who could at the same time carry on multiple liaisons with men. She was a very talented photographer. I think she's in Israel now.

And for all you who want to know, I gave him the heave-ho. My last words were: "I know you. And you won't." Then I hung up on him. And he didn't. Thus my genuine surprise to hear his voice once more. Last night I listened to his message a few more times before finally deleting it.
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sex isn't what leads to emotional attachment. it's when they stick around and keep yapping at you. eventually you get used to it, and you kinda miss it when they're not around. and you find yourself wondering what they're up to. that's what leads to emotional attachment.
 
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Yeah, he was a yapper all right. And too much of a narcissist. (I really have to stop meeting these guys!) Still a lot of fun. Made me laugh a lot. And he's smarter than me. Much smarter. And at times he was the wisest man around.
 
arnoha said:
Huh, interesting. Everyone brought up the "he hasn't changed" argument, and I just kinda went :wtf? She didn't say she wanted a relationship...she said she wanted sex. The sex was admittedly great, so who gives a shit about the other stuff?

Then I read the last post by masameet, and it paints a really different picture. The girls in the thread picked it up better than the guys...you girls were pretty unanimous about it being a bad idea.

What'd you guys read that I missed? I going back to reread and improve my reading-between-the-lines skills...
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maybe bc some of us have been there. Brian made the point well- for us chickas there usually has to be some level of emotional attachment. afterwards we're thinking, "hey that was nice, maybe I'll call him later and see about getting together to do something next week"- and the guy is thinking, 'waffles sound good..."
 
I'm more in the mood for pancakes.

Pancakes.jpg
 
Idontdotrix said:
maybe bc some of us have been there. Brian made the point well- for us chickas there usually has to be some level of emotional attachment. afterwards we're thinking, "hey that was nice, maybe I'll call him later and see about getting together to do something next week"- and the guy is thinking, 'waffles sound good..."
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Hate to break it to you, but he's probably thinking one of two things:
1) How am I going to get out of here gracefully the quickest so that I can still hit it the next time?
2) How am I going to get out of here quickly without getting yelled at for hitting it and quitting it?
:p
 
Climber said:
Hate to break it to you, but he's probably thinking one of two things:
1) How am I going to get out of here gracefully the quickest so that I can still hit it the next time?
2) How am I going to get out of here quickly without getting yelled at for hitting it and quitting it?
:p
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:shhh

Never quit it, if you can get in and hit it again. :teeth
 
fresh batteries would probably be more meaningful.
 
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