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A Tinder Story...

cencalballer said:
It's funny how I and everyone else i really know think of it as a hook up app but so many people I know have found their SO's on there. One is even probably gonna marry the girl. Granted she's a catch but it is a little surprising.
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Well think about how the majority of relationships start. It's based on looks more than personality. You see someone before you approach them. You are only going to approach if you find them attractive. Tinder makes that first connection very easy.

I think what happens to a lot is they think nothing of the date/hookup and then realize they actually do have a lot in common and enjoy each other.

My own personal experience in dating shows how quickly things can go from "having fun" to "oh shit, I got feels.. fuck."
 
MikeL said:
Well think about how the majority of relationships start. It's based on looks more than personality. You see someone before you approach them. You are only going to approach if you find them attractive. Tinder makes that first connection very easy.

I think what happens to a lot is they think nothing of the date/hookup and then realize they actually do have a lot in common and enjoy each other.

My own personal experience in dating shows how quickly things can go from "having fun" to "oh shit, I got feels.. fuck."
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Yeah. It depends though. Some went looking specifically for the relationship others just wanted a hookup and some just wanted fun regardless of sex. I will say one of them is a very good looking man who is quite muscular and yeah he gets away with a lot of shit. He called one breasticles for all of their communication.
 
rjbrittain11 said:
I think that If she just wanted to to just fuck and be done with it she would have taken advantage the second time we hung out. So I don't think that was it.

Ya the song was a dumb choice looking back on it. At the time I thought it was hilarious! Haha

BARF and the obsessions with trannies LOL

EDIT: I have moved on, I just wanted to share the story. :thumbup
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It IS a good story ( or "cautionary tale" :twofinger ) Thanks for typing it up. Good Luck with finding someone..... we ALL need a bit of that :laughing

This was actually a pretty good thread, about online dating

http://www.bayarearidersforum.com/forums/showthread.php?t=462765&highlight=online+dating
 
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NorCalAthlete said:
Ya know, one of the most common things I hear from women on Tinder is "I heard guys on here just want hookups/DTF/etc, that's not what I'm looking for!". And I just sit here going "Huh. How bout that. You heard there was an app full of specifically what you didn't want, and you thought it sounded like the perfect place to join. Either you're batshit crazy, don't know what you want, or you're lying. Pick one."
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Exactly. In other words....convince me to screw you, give me a bogus reason so I don't feel like the girls I just bashed that are on here.
 
Best part is I'll see girls on there that are also on OkCupid or the other sites. I've met one in person and during conversation she said something like 'Yeah, I'm on OkCupid because I'm not gonna do Tinder or anything like that'

Bitch, you lying through your teeth, I just saw you on there when I parked my car :wow :laughing
 
It is actually quite interesting. I've hooked up with quite a few girls from Tinder, and most of them in their profile says "not looking for hookups." Uhh, then why did it take no effort at all and you DTF?

I have a pretty good success rate with who I message and/or messages me to continue the conversation off the app and into real life. :ride

I'm not tall, dark and handsome, but I have great texting skills to trap them :p
 
bruceflinch said:
Hey Congrats. I hope it doesn't take me 3 years to find a really good woman...
Been at it 7 months....
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Started on match 12 years ago...no picture like a total noob (talk about ice skating uphill!) but managed to get into a two year relationship within a month or two of starting. Then I went back to the well. Off and on stuff for a year and then I met the current GF.

There's plenty of success stories from match and a lot of those other services. So don't give up!
 
TheRobSJ said:
Started on match 12 years ago...no picture like a total noob (talk about ice skating uphill!) but managed to get into a two year relationship within a month or two of starting. Then I went back to the well. Off and on stuff for a year and then I met the current GF.

There's plenty of success stories from match and a lot of those other services. So don't give up!
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One of my OKC dates told me she tried eHarmony, Match, etc. All around the same time. She noticed everyone was on all the sites. So there was no reason to pay for certain ones when you can do OKC or Tinder for that matter.
 
MikeL said:
One of my OKC dates told me she tried eHarmony, Match, etc. All around the same time. She noticed everyone was on all the sites. So there was no reason to pay for certain ones when you can do OKC or Tinder for that matter.
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I dunno how it is now, but with match you could only message someone if you had a paid subscription. Otherwise it was spam bot city.
 
TheRobSJ said:
I dunno how it is now, but with match you could only message someone if you had a paid subscription. Otherwise it was spam bot city.
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I have OKC, I see a spam bot once in a blue moon. You can pick them out easily. I've YET to receive a spam bot message either.

So it's a fairly good service right now, might be worth a look.
 
TheRobSJ said:
Started on match 12 years ago...no picture like a total noob (talk about ice skating uphill!) but managed to get into a two year relationship within a month or two of starting. Then I went back to the well. Off and on stuff for a year and then I met the current GF.

There's plenty of success stories from match and a lot of those other services. So don't give up!
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Yeah, me, too. American Singles or something like that. Met about 5 women real quick, then met a real good one, its been right around 12 years now. Got married within the first year and it has worked out really well.

(She is an immigrant from South America, half Dutch/half Surinamese, resident of both countries. I didn't known where Suriname was before we met. I used to rule out foreign women before. I'm glad I didn't this time.)
 
girl was looking for options the whole time

scored what she believes is the BBD (bigger, better deal)

dropped other options like a hot rock.

To paraphrase Chochrane "If you haven't hit it, you must not commit!"
 
MikeL said:
Online dating is interesting because it's so easy to "make a profile" especially with Tinder. I believe a lot of people go online a night they think either A.) I'm ready for a new relationship or B.) I could use some lovin.

The problem is, most are not actually wanting to put the effort in after that night, or their mind changes frequently. "I enjoy being single! Let's party!" and then it switches back to "I WANT LOVE!"

What happens is when the reality hits them in the face that someone actually wants to meet, their lack of actual determination in dating shows it's true colors. They don't meet up.
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I used to know a lot of women who treated the whole thing as if it were a video game. No cares if anyone on the "other side of the screen" were human, they felt like they were dealing with NPCs in WoW. Made up profiles, "score" based on actual replies, set up meets they planned never to attend, etc. Before facebook, etc. this was how bored housewives played on BBS's
 
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