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A Tinder Story...

I wanted to try tinder but it requires Facebook, which I don't use. Oh well.
 
Abacinator said:
I wanted to try tinder but it requires Facebook, which I don't use. Oh well.
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Not missing much. :laughing

Although FB is fun for running social experiments. A friend created account with some name that sounds like it came from a spanish soap opera, no picture, and keeps sending friend requests to women. Most accept. Probably an indication of something. :laughing
 
Hooli said:
:laughing

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Thanks hools, i almost spit water all over my laptop.
 
NorCalAthlete said:
Dude. New Gmail (free). New Facebook (free) locked down and private with 0 friends/interests/info, just the pictures you want to share on tinder. Log into tinder. Good to go.
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I wouldn't sign up for facebook if my life depended on it :thumbup
UDRider said:
Not missing much. :laughing

Although FB is fun for running social experiments. A friend created account with some name that sounds like it came from a spanish soap opera, no picture, and keeps sending friend requests to women. Most accept. Probably an indication of something. :laughing
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:laughing

All I've seen facebook be good at is creating drama.
 
The hot girls talking to the fake hot guys... when he's talking about his mom, they aren't ignoring his comments because he's handsome, they think he's kidding. In their mind, it's a show of wit and extreme confidence, that he is secure enough in himself to stay in a goofy and ridiculous self-deprecating character the whole conversation. So the nerdy guys think they are proving that looks are all that matter and getting sand in their panties over it, when in reality they've created a guy who is not only extremely handsome, but also crazy confident and humorous; a real lady killer. Totally ironic.

The killer of online dating is the hoards of dudes that assault every woman on there with messages, playing a massive game of numbers and basically trashing the entire ecosystem. All dating systems should throttle messaging for these kinds of users to dampen the damaging behavior, but they won't do it because these users are the most prolific generator of page views, and revenue is closely correlated with page views. The system likes the noise, because it makes everyone work 10x harder browsing and messaging, and that generates 10x revenue. It's a very fucked up dynamic, once you understand the business model. I never used Tinder so can't comment on it (or the newer generation of apps.)
 
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mercurial said:
The hot girls talking to the fake hot guys... when he's talking about his mom, they aren't ignoring his comments because he's handsome, they think he's kidding. In their mind, it's a show of wit and extreme confidence, that he is secure enough in himself to stay in a goofy and ridiculous self-deprecating character the whole conversation. So the nerdy guys think they are proving that looks are all that matter and getting sand in their panties over it, when in reality they've created a guy who is not only extremely handsome, but also crazy confident and humorous; a real lady killer. Totally ironic.
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As I said several pages back, when I first started on match like 12 years ago I didn't have a picture. Took a lot of messages that pretty much went out and died in the ethers. But I eventually managed to talk a great girl into meeting me and we wound up together for a couple years.

One might think there's a terribly lopsided ratio of guys to girls so the competition amongst the guys is fierce. But, I've managed to see some of what the girls are subjected to. And I gotta say...the majority of the messages I've seen are from guys who are fairly undateable. Profoundly bad writing, total cookie cutter obvious copy&paste responses, pictures that actually hurt the guy's chances, and/or just having zero point zero game. When you factor that lot out, the odds get a whole lot better.

But looks do in fact matter. If anything, they make it easier at least. I struggled a lot when I had no picture. But when I went back to match, I had a picture. Wasn't a great one. But a lot better than some of the other crap I've seen from some guys. Pro tip: if you're into that LARP stuff...maybe not use the picture of yourself in some half assed costume made of bad living room curtains and toilet paper cores as your main profile pic. Just sayin.
 
Actually, if you're into LARPing, punch yourself in the nuts repeatedly. In fact, I'm going to give myself a punch in the nuggets just for knowing what LARPing is.
 
I assumed he was referring to LAPD, which is a bit weird but people are weird.
Maybe I'll check out later what LARP is all about.
 
I never used match, just OKQ. There must be some advantage to using a paid site because it probably weeds out all the punters who can't afford or are too cheap to pay even a small fee. Of course anytime something costs money, it really hurts the network effect, so it's a tricky dynamic.

I and some of my colleagues setup female profiles to scope out the competition. There were some wacky dudes as you mention, but I also noticed that there were also just alot of vanilla guys who fudge their stats and interests, and are just spending ALOT of time searching every nook and cranny. Everyone likes to cook, everyone loves nature, everyone has traveled the world, everyone is 5'10 or higher (which I guess the rule is, you add 4" to your actual height or something.)
 
Blankpage said:
I assumed he was referring to LAPD, which is a bit weird but people are weird.
Maybe I'll check out later what LARP is all about.
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Let me help you.

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Now I really shouldn't hate on people's lifestyles or whatever. As I probably spend far too much time playing video games despite almost being 40. But JFC, this shit is just.... :facepalm
 
mercurial said:
I and some of my colleagues setup female profiles to scope out the competition. There were some wacky dudes as you mention, but I also noticed that there were also just alot of vanilla guys who fudge their stats and interests, and are just spending ALOT of time searching every nook and cranny. Everyone likes to cook, everyone loves nature, everyone has traveled the world, everyone is 5'10 or higher (which I guess the rule is, you add 4" to your actual height or something.)
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Those stat padders are so stupid. That whole saying of a girl/guy knows within 30 seconds, five minutes, or whatever it is of meeting if they want to sleep with someone...yeah. How well is that impression with that girl gonna go when they think they've been talking to a 5'11" guy and a 5'6" guy shows up for the first date? It's over.

That said, I'm probably guilty of it too. I think I always put undecided in the "want kids?" part. The reality is, I really don't. Doubt I would have ever been convinced to have any.
 
Dunno I listed my height which happens to be 5'10" lol. As for travel actually been to few places so no need to pad there. On kids yeah, I think I just left it at "don't have kids".
 
TheRobSJ said:
Let me help you.

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Now I really shouldn't hate on people's lifestyles or whatever. As I probably spend far too much time playing video games despite almost being 40. But JFC, this shit is just.... :facepalm
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So that's what its about, looks like fun :teeth.

Last summer I was talking to a chick I went to school with and have only seen her a few times since. She mentioned she was dating a guy who wanted to introduce her to some friend. He drove her to a remote area where he pulled out some sort of wizard outfit and joined a group of people running around the woods in costumes. They were there all weekend.
She was a bit shocked which ended that relationship. She did have a funny story about events that week but I can't remember what it was.
 
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Tinder has turned in to sethpool of various scams ran by autbots and ads for prostitutes.
 
Last night I went out with 'JW.' I drove to her house and picked her up. She wasn't wearing the right attire I would have chosen for bowling. She gets in my truck and I say to her "Glad you wore your perfect bowling outfit. I should have worn my black mini skirt too!" She responds with, "I figured we aren't spending the whole night bowling." "I didn't either," I respond.

Bowling was great. I won two games, she legitimately won the 3rd game. She was a decent bowler against myself who barely bowls 100. I am very inconsistent and it kept if fun since I didn't destroy her every game.

We left bowling for a local bar with a band playing. We walked into what looked like a bonfire party in Arkansas. It was that kind of crowd. We had a great time people watching. After a couple drinks, we went to another local bar to finish the evening. A little diner after drinks that was next door and I drove her home.

I will leave most of the details out about this one as you all complained about the length of the last post, but she is heading over to my place in a few minutes to 'watch movies.'

I will say, this isn't a Tinder date...so it could go a whole different direction...


EDIT: I'll make sure to have the Wedding Planning book casually on the coffee table. :thumbup
 
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aminalmutha said:
Actually, if you're into LARPing, punch yourself in the nuts repeatedly. In fact, I'm going to give myself a punch in the nuggets just for knowing what LARPing is.
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FU, Reno 911 was a great show.

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