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Example why dating sucks and I spend $$ on myself

Dubs-I enjoy your threads and the fact that you are willing/able to share your personal experiences of anxiety, triumph and failures.........

Regarding height and dating-whenever a person has a check list of what they want in another human being it typifies what they are actually insecure about. We all have insecurities and I believe that it's best to know if they would make a good team or a disastrous one.
For example-I have a friend who is 6 ft. tall and she will not date a dude under 6'3". When I talked to her about this she said that when she is around shorter men she feels like a gigantic awkward giant. She prefers taller dudes so she can feel feminine and secure. Is she messed up because of this? Maybe but at least she understands her own insecurities and is looking for someone who she can initially feel comfortable with.

Anyway, you sound like you are on your own personal journey to find a woman who has the potential to be a great match with you. Best of luck!
 
Dubs, hope date number 3 goes great! You're a great catch, hope she figures that out! :)

HappyHighwayman said:
I don't understand women who want some sort of relationship commitment before you've slept together...I mean, sexual compatibility and attraction are a factor of whether I'd want to commit.
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Pretty much this! :thumbup

mototireguy said:
;)
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Ron Jeremy is so beyond gross... :barf

LikeWaah said:
Sorry, this is not a gender equal opportunity. I don't think you qualify. At a very minimum :boobies are required. :laughing





Haha, love it.
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How you doin'? ;)
 
Gixxergirl1000 said:
Ron Jeremy is so beyond gross... :barf



;)
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Back in college, we went to one of the popular LA nit clubs we used to frequent and ran into (as in, parked our drinks close by) The Hedgehog. Every single girl that would walk by, he'd ask "hey, wanna fuck later?"....mind you, this was The Hedghog in all his hedge-hogness, and yet a decent amount of girls would stop and engage him. A few from that bunch gave him their number and they were pretty damn hot...and that was in 30 minutes of watching the guy.

Confidence and not giving a shit go a long, long way. And by "not giving a shit", I mean, not caring what the outcome is.
 
Melissa said:
Dubs-I enjoy your threads and the fact that you are willing/able to share your personal experiences of anxiety, triumph and failures.........

Regarding height and dating-whenever a person has a check list of what they want in another human being it typifies what they are actually insecure about. We all have insecurities and I believe that it's best to know if they would make a good team or a disastrous one.
For example-I have a friend who is 6 ft. tall and she will not date a dude under 6'3". When I talked to her about this she said that when she is around shorter men she feels like a gigantic awkward giant. She prefers taller dudes so she can feel feminine and secure. Is she messed up because of this? Maybe but at least she understands her own insecurities and is looking for someone who she can initially feel comfortable with.

Anyway, you sound like you are on your own personal journey to find a woman who has the potential to be a great match with you. Best of luck!
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That's like saying, I'm attracted to big boobs because I'm insecure about not having big boobs. Wtf are you talking about. Some people are just attracted to certain attributes more than others. It doesn't necessarily mean they're insecure about something. Dunbz, I think you played it wrong volunteering the info as somebody on the fence might buy into your charm, that being said if she asks I don't think you should lie about it. At that point its probably an attribute she's not willing to overlook, and if she is she might jot overlook you being a liar. No need to waste your time.
 
Holeshot said:
Back in college, we went to one of the popular LA nit clubs we used to frequent and ran into (as in, parked our drinks close by) The Hedgehog. Every single girl that would walk by, he'd ask "hey, wanna fuck later?"....mind you, this was The Hedghog in all his hedge-hogness, and yet a decent amount of girls would stop and engage him. A few from that bunch gave him their number and they were pretty damn hot...and that was in 30 minutes of watching the guy.

Confidence and not giving a shit go a long, long way. And by "not giving a shit", I mean, not caring what the outcome is.
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So beyond gross... if he asked me that, I'd be heading straight home to take a bleach bath... :barf :barf
 
Dubs- there are a few of us that root for you on the BARFs...


Make Valentines day special!

Edit: Nice guys finish last...
 
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Holeshot said:
Back in college, we went to one of the popular LA nit clubs we used to frequent and ran into (as in, parked our drinks close by) The Hedgehog. Every single girl that would walk by, he'd ask "hey, wanna fuck later?"....mind you, this was The Hedghog in all his hedge-hogness, and yet a decent amount of girls would stop and engage him. A few from that bunch gave him their number and they were pretty damn hot...and that was in 30 minutes of watching the guy.

Confidence and not giving a shit go a long, long way. And by "not giving a shit", I mean, not caring what the outcome is.
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Bah, wasn't confidence...they all knew who he was! :laughing
 
The Top 9 Ron Jeremy Pickup Lines

9> “If I could rearrange the alphabet I’d… aw, to hell with
all that — I got a huge schlong. You wanna screw?”

8> “Excuse me, miss. Would you like to join my personal staff?”

7> “You are most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen… and that’s
saying something because I’ve banged thousand of broads,
y’know?”

6> “I may look like a middle-aged couch potato, but I don’t
need a remote to change the channel.”

5> “Over 1,000,000,000 served, baby!”

4> “Want to experience what only a couple thousand silicone-
enhanced bimbos have had the opportunity to try?”

3> “Action!”

2> “Sure, I may be a short, fat, balding, hairy middle-aged man
who’s laid more pipe than a metropolitan water-works, but
that doesn’t mean I’m not a sensitive guy. That being said,
would you like to sample my love-sausage?”

1> “Foot-longs! Getcher foot-longs here!”
 
mototireguy said:
The Top 9 Ron Jeremy Pickup Lines

9> “If I could rearrange the alphabet I’d… aw, to hell with
all that — I got a huge schlong. You wanna screw?”

8> “Excuse me, miss. Would you like to join my personal staff?”

7> “You are most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen… and that’s
saying something because I’ve banged thousand of broads,
y’know?”

6> “I may look like a middle-aged couch potato, but I don’t
need a remote to change the channel.”

5> “Over 1,000,000,000 served, baby!”

4> “Want to experience what only a couple thousand silicone-
enhanced bimbos have had the opportunity to try?”

3> “Action!”

2> “Sure, I may be a short, fat, balding, hairy middle-aged man
who’s laid more pipe than a metropolitan water-works, but
that doesn’t mean I’m not a sensitive guy. That being said,
would you like to sample my love-sausage?”

1> “Foot-longs! Getcher foot-longs here!”
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:rofl
 
Holeshot said:
Back in college, we went to one of the popular LA nit clubs we used to frequent and ran into (as in, parked our drinks close by) The Hedgehog. Every single girl that would walk by, he'd ask "hey, wanna fuck later?"....mind you, this was The Hedghog in all his hedge-hogness, and yet a decent amount of girls would stop and engage him. A few from that bunch gave him their number and they were pretty damn hot...and that was in 30 minutes of watching the guy.

Confidence and not giving a shit go a long, long way. And by "not giving a shit", I mean, not caring what the outcome is.
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Not all of us are as hot as Ron Jeremy
 
HappyHighwayman said:
No, I get it, and I do understand. But when are you fucking your partner, you want it to be satisfying and fun and a good way to connect. If it sucks, doesn't matter how good the rest of your relationship is, in the long run, unless all you want is all the rest of the stuff that goes with relationships..
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But it never really sucks. I mean, really.

Dubbington said:
It's a pretty big turn off if the girl is a dead fish in bed. She can be the funniest and athletic and and great job but if there's no physical compatibility its pretty boring.
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Physical compatibility. Either it fits or ir doesn't. If you're 6-2 and she's 4-6, you probably aren't going to boink her standing up in the shower......

jacksprat said:
If sleep, work, commuting, showering, cooking and eating take up on average at least 17-18 hours of your day, then of the remaining 6-7 hours you could easily spend 15-20% of it having sex. That's a rather significant portion of your time.
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20% is 1.4 hours per day. You've never been married or lived with someone long term, have you? There is what you think or what you fantasize will happen, and what really happens. 2 very different things.
 
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