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Missing person help

I spent the day putting up missing persons flyers all over. I went from place to place asking owners if they had seen him. No luck so far.

I had last talked to him at the end of August. He was in a bad mood with me and said he didn't want to speak to me again. He sometimes gets like that but you give him a little space and time and he comes back around. I figured he was giving me the cold shoulder when he wouldn't return my phone calls and emails.
I even went under the overpass area where all the homeless are and asked around there. I'm running out of ideas.
 
Howdy,

This is James Thomas, he goes by Jim.

He's my Dad and he's been missing for 6 weeks. He lives in Half Moon Bay. I got a call yesterday that he's behind on his rent from his landlord, which is unlike him. He had last been seen by a neighbor about 6 weeks ago. I went down and looked through his place and didn't find any clues or see anything out of the ordinary.
I filed a police report for a missing person and tried going around to the local bars to see if anyone had seen him but I didn't get much help. I called hospitals in the area but they had no records of a patient with his name nor any John Does.
I had last seen him in mid August and had talked with him on the phone late August. He posts on Facebook regularly and I had last seen a post from him on Sept 25. He has eggs in his fridge that expired early October. It's like he just disappeared.
He isn't very mobile. He doesn't drive, and can't walk too far.

If you have any information or ideas please pm me, post here or contact HMBPD

This sucks, Bro. It is all pretty far outside my area, but I will keep an eye out.
 
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am so sorry to hear this. have you considered contacting any of the local news stations? they frequently run stories about missing persons - especially at risk elders. also, san mateo county has a mounted patrol http://www.mpsmc.org/ (volunteer organization - awesome group of guys). you might want to contact them. if they can’t assist, they may be able to recommend other resources (worth asking them for their advice).

on another note - do you have any clues your dad may have dropped in other conversations? weirdly, when we were younger, i considered my SO a flight risk (not from me, but from society in general - he was developing the characteristics of a malcontent hermit). so one day when he was in the mood (stoned) to discuss his feelings (which he rarely did), i asked him if he had a plan. he did, and told me what it was. many years have passed, but it was a good plan, so i think he’d stick to it. plus it gave me some insights into how he thinks. if he did up and vanish (which is always a possibility lol), i’d know how and where to look. would take awhile, but am pretty sure i’d find him eventually. convincing him to come back would be a whole nother battle. :laughing
 
Might try the /r/bayarea subreddit. It gets a good amount of traffic
 
Sorry to hear Aaron, and best of luck finding your Dad.
 
Aaron-

I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you locate your Dad safe and well.

I know that you are checking with FB, but you should also log onto Nextdoor.com for HMB. That website is full of Busy Bodies with nothing else to do, other than spy on their neighbors.

https://nextdoor.com/neighborhood/halfmoonbay--half-moon-bay--ca/

I did that and looked through the past history to see if anything out of the ordinary was mentioned. Didn't see anything.
thanks
 
Hey man, just wishing you well and the news that your Dad is found safe and sound. Sorry you’re going through this.
 
I'm just getting caught up on this thread. I'm really hoping for a good outcome here. I'd be worried sick.

I wonder if there's any info you can get from PG&E - either to see if he's missed payments there, or if you can get more granular info on utility usage - it'd give a pretty clear picture of when he left home.
 
I wonder if there's any info you can get from PG&E - either to see if he's missed payments there, or if you can get more granular info on utility usage - it'd give a pretty clear picture of when he left home.
His Energy consumption drops off after september so it looks like he was last there late sept/ early october.
 
I am too far away to be any actual help, but I am following this thread with strong hope and optimistic well wishes.
 
Been looking everyday and I've not gotten any more useful information nor have I gotten any calls from the fliers. It's been getting pretty depressing and I'm coming to grips that I'll probably never see him again. I would just like to know what happened.
 
Been looking everyday and I've not gotten any more useful information nor have I gotten any calls from the fliers. It's been getting pretty depressing and I'm coming to grips that I'll probably never see him again. I would just like to know what happened.

I am not going through this, and I don't know how you feel but the thought of losing my mom or my dad in the current state of where they live causes me so much anxiety. I feel for you, and if there was anything I could do to help I would be willing. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I hope I say this with confidence, the BARF community is here for you. Keep your head up, reach out to any of us anytime, even just to talk. I'm really sorry.
 
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