So put the sub in "backwards" and it sounds fine this way. Lets me close that door without it rattling all of the place too which was the biggest bonus. Not 100 percent sure it sounds better facing this direction but if there's a slight offset in the audio quality it's more than made up for by having that door closed and no more rattles. Also have it phased 180 out which was noticably beneficial for this particular set up.
You're also 100% right on the L and R speakers needing to be further apart. Really hard to discern from the center channel right now. Unfortunately i don't think i'll really be able to fix this at my current place just because of space limitations. Oh well, just a 6 months lease