Brokenlink
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Poop
post moar.Just sittin' here sending out applications like it's my job, because, I guess it is until I get hired.
Is it a big cost to you to make the call? I’d just weigh that against whatever cost there may be with you and your mom.Question for the group.
I love my mom, but she can be incredibly manipulative. She lives with her twin sister, who is even more manipulative. They both seem obsessed with impressions and my mom's in that she has the best son in the world. You know, the kind that calls whenever some random relative comes to visit just to talk to them. Problem is, I am not that guy. So of course, she reminds me. Every fucking time.
"Your cousin is here. Why don't you call tonight and talk to her?"
Now, normally I wouldn't really have an issue with this, but my cousin doesn't give a rat's ass about me. She has never once called me. When I visit my mom, they don't call her so she can talk to me. And the only reason my mon does this is for the optics that her son is the best son ever.
I have told her repeatedly that this is manipulative and if my cousin really wanted to talk to me, she could also pick up the phone and call me. And let's be clear, this is not a close cousin and I have nothing in common with her, nor have we ever been close. We have lived in different staqtes or countries our whole lives and I have probably spent a total of about 20 hours in the same room with her in my entire life.
So I just sent my mom a fairly mean response saying it's bullshit and manipulative. And I feel a little bad because she is old and her back sucks. But I am so over being manipulated constantly for no other reason than to make my mom look good. It has nothing to do with me, but I am the pawn. This constant manipulation has pushed me farther and farther away. I was kind of planning on going down to visit her this weekend, but now I am like "No fucking way."
Thoughts?
I could eat lunch too! Amazing how much I get bothered by no lunchies and/or other no-breaks.Alright, so far just three applications today, but there will be more. I suppose I should eat some lunch though.
I'd just tell her "if she calls, I'll answer" and leave it at that.
Is it a big cost to you to make the call? I’d just weigh that against whatever cost there may be with you and your mom.
She's the one on vacation.perhaps there is the line of thinking that, with females (cousins) you can't expect them to be proactive and "make the connection", "give a shit" etc.